Is this rude, as a wedding guest?

[kinkymouse]

Wedding guests on Saturday for good friends, the invite was given and accepted four or so months ago. There is a day ceremony then a couple of hours until evening at a different venue but all within 5 miles or do. Invitation is just for us and not our teenage DCs.

We have this week been invited to our nieces birthday tea also on Saturday. We declined but PIL offered to take teenage DCs with them and to stay the night. Great.

DH has tonight said that between the wedding day and evening we should go to dn party, she's 9, twenty miles away and it doesn't really matter about going to the evening or we could "pop in" on our way home.

I just think this is so rude, DH says I'm being ridiculous and no one would care.

He is sulking.

Best not to arrive in the first place, then. I'm with the others. Honour your previous promise to attend the wedding, and have fun.

Rude IMO

Thanks, I will stand firm, I'm sure he won't go if I refuse but if he does he can go alone.

But you are child free!
Why, oh why are you even considering it?!

Good decision kinkymouse. Let us know how you get on.

This is what I don't get about modern weddings.

When else do you invite people to an event and then have a yawning great gap of 2 or 3 hours when you are not entertaining them?

(Completely misses point of thread).

teen that's the bit when you find a hopefully free bar and get slaughtered merry.

Or if you have a hotel room, you go back to have sex get changed.

It's the best bit. And not something I'd exchange for a 9 yr olds party.

Trying And if you have kids with you and no hotel room, and don't really drink?

Then I agree, that's a rubbish day out day out.

However, The op doesn't have kids with her, that's the point.

Just an update. We had a lovely day and hugely overestimated the time between day and night and barely had an hour. no free bar and no sex just a quick visit home to see the dogs. Dh had decided against DN's party as I had flatly refused to go anyway. So good day all round.

I don't think it will be noticed much, or at all, if you're there or not. Evenings dos are always a circus. If the bride has lots and lots of guests but still has time to be offended, she's spoilt. But your niece would probably care more deeply.

Glad you had a great time OP :)

Ooh lovely, this is the second updated 'What happened in the end' thread on my 'Threads I'm on' this evening.
I do like to hear what happened in the end, when I've been reading a thread

Thank you.

Well done! Glad it all worked out.

Glad it all worked out. I think you did the right thing.

If the party was nearer, and you would still get to the evening party soon after it starts then that's fine. However, arriving late, or just popping in is rude.

Sorry, hadn't read second page of thread.