To be annoyed about this? FIL and hospitality

[Fitzers]

We live abroad at the moment. FIL has come to visit and is staying for a few nights. He has traveled over with a few of his friends (they all travel together a few times a year for short trips to various places). Late last night my DH informs me that FIL's friends will be dropping in with him tomorrow when he arrives and I might want to make sure I have dinner for them all. Apparently it wasn't possible to be certain if they would be joining us due to unclear plans travel wise today (they are driving not flying so no set departure/arrival times) so I should prepare on the basis that they were joining us as otherwise it'd look rude (per DH) if we'd nothing to offer them.

Roll on today and I've prepared a dinner to feed everyone. I'm a SAHM currently so I had time to do it but i was struggling with the volumes due to too small pots and pans and having to take account of a preference for meat & two veg type meals as opposed to anything easy like pasta etc (easy for me anyway). FIL and friends arrive and no the friends aren't staying for dinner (aaagggghhh!) but before the friends leave FIL oh so graciously invites them all over for lunch on Sunday, no prior discussion. So now I have to dream up and prepare another large dinner for Sunday!

Leaving aside the annoyance does anyone have any suggestions for a large crowd of 'plain' eaters? Today's dinner is chicken, leek and ham pie but, as we are going to be eating that for the next three days, I'd better make something else for Sunday. I'd like to avoid a large roast dinner if at all possible.

Dh and fil can cook together.

Can't you freeze the chicken and leek pie and just serve them that?

Next time your dh gives you instructions like that tell him to do one !!
They can order in fish & chips!

Shepherd's Pie? you can make it in advance too.

I don't know. What's your dh going to cook for them?

Can you not just freeze todays dinner and serve it on Sunday with a few extra trimmings?

Tell DH to do it or to order in food.

What are you, a restaurant?

I'd tell them, dh included to get fucked. Unless you enjoy being a skivvy and a doormat!

Freeze left overs and they can eat that I you must feed them. Cheeky feckers

Agree with others freeze the pie and serve it up on Sunday, if it was me FIL would be wearing it, so he better be thankful he has you.

Baked ham with potato and mixed salad. Garlic bread if you can be bothered.
Loads of nibbles. Job done.

(The hard bit is putting aside the resentment. I'd be annoyed too. And I'd make sure that DH pulls his weight.)

No room in the freezer unfortunately, it's tiny and crammed already.

I've probably done a disservice to DH reading back as he was very apologetic last night but then again he didn't really understand what the big deal was to add a bit extra to the pot . He also didn't have anything to do with the Sunday invitation either, that was FIL off his own bat.

I like the idea of FIL and DH cooking, could work, they are both decent cooks.

I'd get up on Sunday morning and leave for the day. Your DH can sort it out.

YANBU. Ask FIL what he is planning to cook!

The pie sounds perfect. Freeze and reuse, it's too good not to.

The words you are looking for are 'fuck off'.

Or if you are being nice 'you can cook them whatever you want dear/FIL. Just make sure the kitchen is tidy by teatime'.

DH and FIL can BBQ together whilst you get pissed / go out with the DCs

Ok, DH and FIL can sort it. I'm not going to stress about it. Funny thing is I'm far from a doormat normally. I think I fell into the trap of wanting to be hospitable as they've traveled to see us but I can't be doing with the uncertainty and lack of notice.

I shall relax on Sunday and leave them at it.

Slow cooked pulled pork with crusty rolls and a big salad or roasted veg. It can all be prepared before and left to its own devices in the oven while you are served wine by your FIL.

That sounds delicious kinkymouse. I'm actually looking forward to it now!

Ok, DH and FIL can sort it.

Good for you.

Don't ask them to do it. Just ask them what they are going to make and tel them you're really looking forward to not having to cook

Low effort hosting is my speciality

"I might want to make sure I have dinner for them all"

WTAF!
Does he think he might need to check which century he is in?

That's not exactly how DH said it ilovenicesoap but it's how I heard it and he already knew how annoyed I was about the situation before Sunday became an issue.

I have just polished off some pie and am sitting down while DH tidies up. DH and FIL are sorting Sunday.

Thanks everyone for the reassurance that I was not being unreasonable.

If FIL is a decent cook, maybe he is intending to do the cooking?

Suggest to your DH that he and his dad do the cooking, and ask if there is anything he needs ordering in.

Sorry, my post got frozen in time and missed your updates.

Well done sorting it out OP

I was going to say if DH didn't see a problem with "adding a bit to the pot" then he shouldn't see a problem cooking said pot himself