To not care what and how much ds eats at nursery?

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I do the vast majority of nursery pick ups. If there has been an issue or if ds has done something new I get told but otherwise it's a general "all went well today" if I ask what they ate for lunch and how much ds ate they tell me but I don't tend to ask as I don't see that it makes any difference to the rest of the day.

If he's hardly eaten any lunch I offer him dinner exactly as I would if he'd eaten a huge lunch, I don't worry about his food intake, I believe that if he's hungry he'll eat, we give him varied balanced meals, we can't do more than that.

Dp often asks me what ds has eaten for lunch and how much he ate and I say it don't know, I didn't ask. Aibu not to really concern myself with what and how much ds has eaten?

Maybe some nursery workers are telepathic or can see into the future. Do they really go to the trouble of documenting fabricating the number of grapes a child eats?

We're starting to drown under the pile of paper our nursery gives us re our twins. I suppose it's good to know they are taking care, although when the kids have their at home days with me I rarely manage to keep track of who pooed what and what they ate for dinner. One of mine sort of eats like a foraging bear anyway - hardly anything for a couple of days and then she'll eat a massive big bit of fish and half a pound of raspberries. What is cute though is that the nursery have figured out their food preferences by watching them (e.g. DT1 doesn't like cheese unless it's melted) and it makes you think they really must care.

As a cm I would be a tad ashamed if the only thing I could come up
With was how many poos a minded does In one day.

Diarrhoea ok yes. Normal poos no not to be recorded that's wierd.

I have far funnier lovelier things to say to my parents because I don't tart the children like eating a pooing machines.

Lol treat not tart. Obviously.

I don't know where you are but in NZ it's a Ministry requirement that these things are documented. And food is one of the mot emotive topics amongst parents.

Cm in England and never recorded poos. Was Ofsted outstanding.

I have a pooing machine. . If nursery told me about them all I would gape at them.

There is a list on wall I could look at if I really wanted to. I don't know how many nappies she has at home. Although there is dirty nappy brinkmanship between DH and I at weekends. He usually loses.

I've had parents calling me in the evening to ask me what little George had to eat during the day to have yellow spotty poo. Sweetcorn dear. So now I write down what they eat because no, I don't want to get a call from a parent at 8 in the evening. I have never written down how nappy stuff, unless the child was unwell or something didn't look right. Ofsted insists on meaningful communication with parents, and that's two way communicating not just CM/nursery telling parents how many times nappies were changed but also activities, new words, milestones, etc.

Yes, I remember "the sheet" - everything that had been eaten, amount of sleep, number of nappies (wet/dry/soiled) and I used to do the "oh really" nod too.

Fine they have to record the information but nothing wrong with reporting be exception.

I don't care too much if they have eaten everything, but I do want to know if they haven't eaten something, as DS in particular would survive on puddings and snacks if I didn't incentivise him to eat some sensible food!

Also, with DD, if she doesn't eat, it's usually the first sign that she's coming down with something...

I do forget to ask what DS has been doing during the day though! Now he tells me about it when we are home!

our old nursery used to do this. I found it helpful when they were really little, babies and young toddler stage. If DD hadn't eaten her lunch or had refused her after noon milk then i would know to expect a grumpy child at dinner or possibly a midnight milk call. similarly if she hadn't done a poo that day then i would know that a big one was looming.
It is not terribly important but it did help me to feel a bit more connected and in control of my children at a time when i was largely surrendering control to the nursery.

Loudandtothepoint hit the nail on the head for me:
"It is not terribly important but it did help me to feel a bit more connected and in control of my children at a time when i was largely surrendering control to the nursery."

I don't need to know about every poo and every mouthful, but when they're too small to tell you themselves how their day has been, knowing these little details helps me feel a bit more connected to them. I'm more interested in the activities they've been doing though.

Having said that, DS is prone to constipation and we give him Movicol if he hasn't pooed in a couple of days to prevent him ending up straining in pain, so for that reason it's important I know when he hasn't pooed all day.

YANBU.I was rarely interested as DD is an enthusiastic eater and enjoyed the food at Nursery. I think it's a combination of nursery rules and experience of other children that might eat very little.DD sometimes goes to holiday club at her old nursery and they still tell me what she's eaten even though she's nearly 8. Don't mind really as they really do provide exceptional care.

I like to know. DD has terrible constipation. I want to know if she managed a poo and what she ate. If it seems low on fresh stuff I up it at home.

I work flexibly so used to pick DD1 up from nursery at random times and often found the staff frantically trying to document the nappy/food information ahead of the main pick up period, instead of being fully focused on the children. I also know some of the time the food was just randomly filled in - on a number of occasions DD's daily card said she had eaten a full now of weetabix for breakfast at 8am when I'd dropped her at 10am so she had eaten breakfast at home!

For me it's really important. Dd eats like a very small sparrow at the best of times and I am always keeping an eye out for what has been going in - and generally if she has eaten well at nursery I can chill out for a couple of days about what she eats at home. And they are also good at introducing food.

She also has a tendency to constipation (probably because she is such a picky eater) so again I need to know.

And of course it's great that she does so much at nursery but when they're telling me at pick up time I'm only actually hearing "she has lots of fun doing messy things".