To think find your own bloody present!

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DD9 has been asking for a pandora bracelet for about a year (v unoriginal I know)

I repeatedly said no. Explained it was expensive and not just a bracelet for everyday wear for a nine year old. However her school report was great and she has been so helpful this year and just generally well behaved. I relented and took her out for a special day out to choose a bracelet and one charm. Even the assistant said how lucky she was and how she should look after her jewellery. DD spent ages choosing one special charm and hasn't taken the bracket off since.

I was hoping it could be a special thing for her and she could look forward to choosing a new charm on birthdays/Xmas etc.

Cue Daddy (ex husband) coming home from holiday.....DD has come home with not one, not two, not even three but FOUR new fucking charms for her bracelet. Why does she need FOUR at once? He's just gone into the nearest Pandora shop and bought whatever he thought she might like. Not only that e has bought DD (4) a bracelet too. Yep the FOUR year old.

AIBU here to think he's taken anything that was special about it away?

I was trying to get DD to appreciate a nice grown up piece of jewellery and to look forward to adding new pieces to it. To realise that you save up and treat yourself on special occasions and for it to have some kind of meaning to her.

Yes, it is infuriating. I spent hours upon hours to get my DSD into new sets of books, as she would grumble and moan when she finished a set. Finally got her to like lemony snicket, got her the first one - she loves it, and her mother goes and buys her the whole rest of the set. In one go. Like, thanks love. The idea was for me to be able to get her one every few weeks but no, you just let me do all the hard work and sail in and buy the rest of them for her why don't you.

Thanks for replies.

Just to clarify DD wasn't on holiday with them, these are the gifts from him being on holiday. I agree with the poster who said it will get to the point where nothing surprises or excites her. I love the feeling of wanting something and saving or waiting for a birthday for it.

I do see why it's annoying but isn't the thinking on the part of the giver likely to be, "oh, she really likes that bracelet/those books, I'll get some of those."

I totally see why you're annoyed. It doesn't teach her the value of anything! I have a Pandora and could only afford the bracelet and one charm at first - those two things were the better part of £100 and I thought I'd really treat myself with some Christmas money. DP has since bought me two more for special occasions.

Even if her dad didn't know that you were using it as an exercise to teach her the value of saving for something, I find it really tacky and gross that he has just wandered into Pandora and spent £100 on charms for a nine year old, not to mention buying one for a four year old.