my husband works full time plus does a lot of freelance work. he is a hands on dad to our two kids aged 7 and 3. i work three and half days a week. i have been at home this afternoon but took kids for haircuts and did some food shopping. he moaned that when he came home it was chaos and he can't cope with it. i didn't think it was. it was fraught due the kids bickering so dd was in front watching a dvd and DH moaned that it was chaos cos i hadn't opened the blinds fully. i have one whole day off a week and he thinks i should spend this day doing housework as its not my day off its our shared day allocated for me to do house stuff. instead i take DS to a toddler group and do some housework. i said to DH its easier for me to do housework at the weekend when he can watch the kids but he told me this was selfish cos thats our family time together. i and friends of mine think the house is fine but he has ridiculously high standards IMO.