To think he should have called to let me know

[GrumpySwivelHead]

I may well be BU here but I'm genuinely interested in the view of others.

I had provisionally booked a Pilates class for this evening, but for me to go I needed DH to be back by 7pm so I could go.

I texted him this morning to ask if he would be able to get back early so I could go. He didn't call or text back. I didn't call him to ask because I was crazy busy at work. So I assumed as he hadn't called or texted back he couldn't get back on time so I didn't confirm my class.

He arrived back home early so that I could get to class and now is cross that as I hadn't heard back from him I didn't confirm the Pilates class and now I'm not going. I'm cross because I could have gone to Pilates if he had called me. Who is right to be cross?! (Probably neither of us!)

You're right it's neither of you.

He took it as a given rather than a question. A little chat about texts and whatnot should help with next time.

If you did not get a response, how were you to know he received/heard the text?

Did you specify that you needed to know in advance? if not YABU because leaving it till today to check was a bit late.

Wjhy didn't he reply to your text.

This is where I wonder why some people don'e actually speak to each other any more! Or couldn't you have spoken about it that morning or the night before?

Why

Was there a question mark?

"Can you get back for seven" is more of an instruction/request.
"Can you get back for seven?" Asks for a response.

I have said to my husband time and time again can you just confirm you got the message next time. 2 seconds to text ok.

Ah balls to it, I was trying to be even handed then realised how much DH annoys me when he does things like this so YANBU.

I think he's more U than you. If you had gone, not having heard back from him, and he hadn't got the text or couldn't do it then presumably there'd have been some consequences? However you should have tried to call or arranged it the night before or sent an email.