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To Request Elderly Neighbours to turn down TV as I'm working from home?

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PinkyAndTheBump · 01/09/2014 13:12

We live in a terraced house, which apparently has shit sound insulation between the houses. Our elderly neighbours tend to sit in their front room to watch TV. They have it on so loud, I needn't have the sound on if watching the same programme as them.

Our first solution was to swap dining room/lounge so that we sit at the back of the house and avoid the noise - but this meant my home office desk was in the front room, and I was getting annoyed with the noise with the crap US made-for-TV "dramas" that they seem to watch every afternoon. I don't have to work from home, but I chose to do so in order to save on commute time/cost and to get some peace & quiet!

Our second solution was to move my desk upstairs - not ideal, as it's in the front bay window, and there's too much glare from outside, but I can STILL hear the sodding TV from next door.

They also have a second TV in the back room - sometimes with the same programme playing as the front room, but just a little out of sync :¬(

So, would I be unreasonable to get them to turn down the volume, or atleast switch off the TV and go and do something more interesting instead?

I have to be a little careful about the noise, as although we are very quiet at the moment, we are expecting a baby in the New Year, which of course , will not be coming with any volume control!!

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Itsjustmeagain · 01/09/2014 19:23

My advice is don't say anything we have a neighbour the same but she is the best neighbour we have ever had! We have 5 children and as you will find out soon they are loudddd. In our old houses we were constantly worried about noise but here it's no problem - she is deaf so we put up with her tv and radio she puts up with puts up with our kid noise - it's fab!!

RiverTam · 01/09/2014 19:25

if she's deaf she's not 'putting up' with your noise - she can't hear it! Whereas the OP can hear her neighbours' TV, from every room in her house.

hoobypickypicky · 01/09/2014 19:37

My new neighbour (not elderly) has hearing problems. He mentioned it when he introduced himself to us and said not to hesitate to let him know if his television disturbs us.

We wouldn't dream of it. For one thing he can't help having poor hearing. He's not suffering it on purpose. For another we make noise too - we're a family, we're bound to. I do my best to clamp down on it but sometimes a DC will scream if a spider crosses the room etc and it's too late, the noise has already happened. I've asked him to please let us know if we ever disturb him and I'll sort it. I mean it, I hope he wouldn't feel embarrassed to knock and tell us.

Are you sure that both of your own neighbours are lacking in the ability to hear properly?The hearing of the neighbour's wife is fine, so although he may not pick up on our family's noise, she will.

If you plan to stay in your house as your DC grows and possibly your family expands you'll be grateful for a little give and take. Your neighbours may not hear your noise but you'll still want them to be friendly if your DC has to apologetically ask for the ball back which has been kicked into their garden or what have you.

luckygirl322 · 01/09/2014 19:50

My 90 year-old mother wears two hearing aids and still needs the volume blasting to be able to hear the tv.

I feel for you, but I understand their situation too.

DJMinitron · 13/01/2018 17:30

It's been a while since this thread started but I was looking online for my rights in this situation. I am in a housing association flat and the man downstairs speaks as though he's deaf but SEEMS to hear what I say, so could be impediment. Either way, his telly is WAY too loud for 7 hours a day, until 11pm and I also work at home and I need quiet to talk to my customers, it's not a noisy or insular profession. I am ALL for communication, but having lived in poor areas of the north for a few years now, I realise this kind of thing seems to get misunderstood. Can't BELIEVE how many people here say it's shocking or rude to ask someone with blaring TV to turn it down. I feel it is reasonable, there ARE other things to do in life, we live in such a zombified society. And what about silent film era? If I was deaf I would be HORRIFIED to put my tv up too loud incase I caused distress. I want to say something to him but I don't know how. There must be a reasonable solution, why the hell should I put up with his TV for 7 hours a day? I don't watch tv because it irritates me.

DJMinitron · 13/01/2018 17:30

It's been a while since this thread started but I was looking online for my rights in this situation. I am in a housing association flat and the man downstairs speaks as though he's deaf but SEEMS to hear what I say, so could be impediment. Either way, his telly is WAY too loud for 7 hours a day, until 11pm and I also work at home and I need quiet to talk to my customers, it's not a noisy or insular profession. I am ALL for communication, but having lived in poor areas of the north for a few years now, I realise this kind of thing seems to get misunderstood. Can't BELIEVE how many people here say it's shocking or rude to ask someone with blaring TV to turn it down. I feel it is reasonable, there ARE other things to do in life, we live in such a zombified society. And what about silent film era? If I was deaf I would be HORRIFIED to put my tv up too loud incase I caused distress. I want to say something to him but I don't know how. There must be a reasonable solution, why the hell should I put up with his TV for 7 hours a day? I don't watch tv because it irritates me.

lostinspaceyetagain · 13/01/2018 17:34

Offer to show them how to use sub titles. Transformed by DFs life- he used to have the TV on full.

ilovesooty · 13/01/2018 17:35

What have poor areas of the north to do with it?

specialsubject · 13/01/2018 17:37

Report to Housing association. Hopefully he will be turn it down but if not keep complaining.

H As are responsible for most of the evictions, a fact that shelter and corbyn hope you don't notice. As social landlords don't die,divorce or sellup , these evictions are all due to tenancy breach.

Don't see why you should suffer when headphones for dickhead cost a tenner.then at least he can blow his hearing alone.

Harveypuss · 13/01/2018 21:53

We had this with a previous neighbour many years ago. Elderly couple who had the TV so loud we had to watch the same TV programmes as they did (and I hate Coronation Street!). We politely tried to talk to them about it but it went badly. They took great offence, and the lady started crying, saying "it's all right for you, you're young and have your health - all we have is the TV". We felt terrible about it and felt we could not complain further.

We moved house!

londonrach · 13/01/2018 22:29

Do you have to ask..yabu and abit rude to ask. If its after 11pm yes i understand..during the day its your problem. You need to soundproof better

londonrach · 13/01/2018 22:30

Zombie!!!

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