To tell her to clean kitchen table after leaving used sanitary towel on it

[SlightlySquicked]

Flatmate situation. She left her used sanitary protection on the kitchen table wrapped up with a clump of hair pulled out of the shower. Came back in evening and I pointed this out, she said sorry and lifted it. I expected her to clean the table - she didn't.

How should I bring this up?

This comes after last week's forgetting to flush the loo and leaving our front door open. I brought these up and got a 'sorry, I need to remember to check'. I am getting pissed off.

Oh that's horrible! I could just about forgive it, in your situation, if it was left in the bathroom (although how could you forget to bin something like that?!), but why was it in the kitchen?!
YWNBU to ask her to leave at the end of her contract!

Well at least she's not flushing it down the loo. She's also clearing the plughole of hair which considering there are actually vile people out there who piss in the shower is a good thing imo.

A side from the door locking I can't see what you're frothing about. Yes a lapse in memory is annoying but if it keeps happening then act by all means.

Poor bugger.

Who is the 'poor bugger', gamerchick? The woman whose flatmate is inexcusably disgusted with her because she left her menstrual waste on the kitchen table and still hasn't cleaned it?

Well, clearing the plughole of hair is a good thing, but most people would then put the hair in the bin. Bathroom bin if there is one, kitchen bin, outside bin, whatever. I'm just not getting the mindset that says 'I'll just take this sanitary towel out of my pants, and this hair I've pulled out of the shower, and I'll put it on the kitchen table'. She's already taken it out of the bathroom, why not take it to a bin? Why a surface people are likely to use for cooking and eating?

What's wrong with pissing in the shower?

This thread is going to go the way of thread on towel and bed linen changing, I can tell.

Oh come off it who hasn't been on the way to do one thing and got distracted by something more urgent?

Like it said if it's a one off then it can be forgiven but the OP is coming across like she doesn't like her anyway and wants her out regardless. I wonder if she's like those who post in here stressed out because they have to creep about because their flatmates leap on them for everything.

Was it at least wrapped in its plastic envelope thing, or just literally removed and placed on the table? Not that one is better than t'other.

That's disgusting.

I was in the gym once, went for a swim, went had a shower then put my costume through the spin dryer thingy....I thought it appeared 'odd'- put my hand in to retrieve costume and got hold of a used sanitary towel. Why? Who swims with a towel on, surely you'd use a tampon or mooncup if you were swimming during your period? Yuck yuck yuck. I got a carrier bag and used that to fish it out and put in the bin as I didn't want someone else to have to come across it as well.

Oh dear.

If she is nice in other ways, maybe its worth the investment. At least she is not dishonest, noisy or nasty.

She may be very young for her age, or dyspraxic or slightly mentally disabled. I do know some young ppl in that category, it sounds like the kind of thing they would do. And they would be too embarrassed to tell you why they didn't understand or remember.

But if you were very clear with her, almost as if you were her mother, she might get the picture and sort things out. So I would be inclined to sit down with her, go through the yuck episodes, make it clear what expectations are and say that if things don't pick up, you will ask her to move out at Christmas, which would be sad as you really like her, but these yuck episodes have to stop.

A neurotypical young person wouldn't need this, but a very scatty, highly dyspraxic, borderline LD person, might.

I am with gamerchick to me this is a massive squeamish princessy overreaction. Yes, it's gross but it's just a mistake! An accident. And unless blood was leaking ON the table I don't see why you are so het up about cleaning it. Give it a quick wipe yourself.

Poor woman. It was a mistake.

I cant imagine why it was ever out of the bathroom, never mind put on the kitchen table, but why didn't you bleach it yourself?

Anyone who would leave something like that on the table isnt going to be bothered about cleaning it properly.
I would be spraying domestos around and changing the locks!

So I said about the sanpro, and she said she was just being forgetful.

She was being forgetful?! Under what circumstances does a person carry a used sanitary pad around with her?

Oh come off it who hasn't been on the way to do one thing and got distracted by something more urgent?

I have adhd, this is my life. I've burnt tefflon off the pan because I forgot it was on the stove. I've also forgotten to turn off the stove a few times. Or locked keys in the car. That's being forgetful.

I have never once left unsanitary things lying around, and I always flush the toilet. You don't put stuff like that on the table in the first place. There's no excuse for that.

A one off is not a kicking out offence.

I think I'd have left it on the table and pointed it out to her, saying,"Is this yours?" I'd also have had disinfectant or other for her to clean the table ready in my hand. Once the sanitary towel was in the bin, I'd have handed it to her and said, "Here you are."

Onedropoflove

We used to keep sheets of newspaper in the bathroom cupboard for just that purpose. When you know it's the right time, indicate your supply to your problem.

How minging. I would have presented her with some Dettol and a pair of gloves and a cloth and tell the minger to clean the table.

"Like it said if it's a one off then it can be forgiven but the OP is coming across like she doesn't like her anyway and wants her out regardless. I wonder if she's like those who post in here stressed out because they have to creep about because their flatmates leap on them for everything." - gamerchick

Where on earth have I said I don't like her?! I expressly said I DO in fact like her, she is a sweet person but the last while she has been doing some fucking unpleasant things.

Last week, I cleaned her shit off the toilet bowl. Just before the weekend I was confronted with her unflushed shit in the toilet bowl. And now a used pad on the table. I certainly don't leap on her for everything, I'm bloody laid back about a lot of stuff but there are limits.

In other news, I have just got home from work and the table has been cleaned.

I would have to burn the table!

Nahhh, I'm with gamerchick on this one, rank but a mistake.

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