I have successfully shared my nursery school run for the past year with DDs best friend. We both have 3 DCs and our DSs are at another school together so it really helps with the logistics of pre and after school clubs, not to mention cutting down the driving. We both have husbands that work long hours so it has been a real godsend.
This year another good friend of mine has a DD who will be going to the same school but into the nursery (my DD and her friend will be going into reception) and she wants to be included in the arrangement. I'm not keen on this arrangement because (a) I don't want my daughter being taken into school by 3 different sets of people - especially when she us settling into "big school" (b) I don't want the added hassle of taking her DD to the nursery which is in a different part if the school and also going through the settling in period as her child is very clingy (c) I don't want to have to carry 2 additional car seats around and I can't fit them across the back of my car meaning one child would have to sit in the front (d) I feel nervous about having to walk 3 small children into the school as there is no on site parking and quite frequently I have to park a fairly long way away, crossing roads etc and finally, I don't actually want to reduce the number of trips I do to the school. My current arrangement involves us doing 2 each and the 5th one we do alone, primarily to have a bit of special 1:1 time with our DDs. My current car share friend shares these sentiments but we don't want to offend our other friend by saying no. We thought perhaps we could offer to take her DD once a week on the day that we usually do the car share alone? (It's also worth mentioning that she and her husband currently share school runs as he works locally...very close to DDs school ....part of her desire to join our school run is that I think she feels a bit left out, as opposed to struggling with logistics)....AIBU?