AIBU to want to make DH sleep in the car

[ButterflyInFlight]

... because his snoring is so blooooody loud. I've suggested more pillows, rolling over, nose sprays etc. and nothing works!

Aibu to want to relegate him to the car so I can get a decent kip? Last night before I go back to work after 6 weeks off !!

Very harsh Butterfly.

Wouldn't the shed be a bit more comfortable?

We don't have a shed ZigZag, or a spare bed for that matter. The sofa is only a 2 seater, so I was thinking the car might be better as the seats fully recline!

On a serious note, is there anything I can do to shut DH up?!

Oh come on! Surely the cupboard under the stairs will suffice. You are harsh Butterfly. V harsh.

I know someone who had an operation to stop him snoring.

Yep, on a serious note, nothing you can do tonight.

If his snoring is that bad, has he considered talking to his GP?

If you have no room for a bigger sofa, how about investing in a two sweater sofa bed which could be pulled out if really desperate?

How desperate are you?

Divorce or under the patio?

If not, GP or over the counter solutions. If he only does it on his back you can sew a tennis ball into a t-shirt and make him wear that?!

Get him checked for sleep apnea. Mum did this for dad and it was like a miracle cure. He wears a breathing machine at night which is quiet or so she says and he doesn't snore now which means he sleeps the whole night and has more energy.

Sorry but laughed reading the op :)

My OH snores occasionally so know how irritating it is im just glad its not everynight. Has he been to doctors my mums partner went recently and wating for a referal to a specialist

Even though DH is handy to have about the house, I dream about how happy I'd be having my own room.

It's more the dripping tap torture than volume with him, but my Dad's got a snore that can be heard in the next county so I know how bad it can be.

The most important thing me and DH have found was the acceptance (from both of us) that it wasn't anybody's fault. It's not his fault because he's asleep and not yours for being hideously tortured by him every fucking night for years on end

If it's bad has he seen the doctor?

Snoring is the main reason I tolerate having a night working dh. I cope with bad nights as I know I'll get the bed to myself a few nights that week when I wave him off to work.

As frustrating as it is there is nothing you can do tonight, but he really needs to see the gp, mine has nothing wrong that a few pounds shifted wouldn't hurt.

Even if you do manage to get them to STFU, you end up just laying there dreading the signs of them fucking getting ready to fucking start fucking up again

I feel your pain butterfly, it isn't his fault but that doesn't help you much when you're knackered!

Do try and persuade him to get checked out though, sometimes snoring is just snoring but it can be a sign of something dangerous

I started about 2 weeks ago, he has never done it in the past. He is not over weight and doesn't show signs of struggling to breathe. He just sounds like a f**ing fog horn!

We went to a hotel recently and I was SO embarrassed that I kept waking him up every 10 mins to shush him in case other guests heard him! I feel bad .

I agree though, I would loooove to have a bed/room to myself for one night. Am I awful thinking that?!

Thank you thank you thank you!
You have reminded me of one of the many reasons why I couldn't bear to live with my ex anymore. The constant, revolting racket that comes out of him the second he falls asleep (and sometimes before) made me feel genuinely murderous! And he too could have a least made a bit of an effort to not be such a fat bastard lose some weight, for the sake of my sanity if not his own health. Ahhh... Peace & quiet... No money, family, or support from anyone but at least I don't have to listen to him snore anymore!

If he's only started doing it in the past two weeks, is it a cold/virus or something clogging him up more than normal?

You're not awful to not want to be tortured, no.

I think I have answered my own AIBU, actually . It's not his fault because he can't help it and I am just being fussy. He doesn't do it to spite me and, when woken up, he tries his best to not fall asleep and snore.

So, the next matter on the agenda is, who is going to be inventing snore-proof lightweight ear plugs that feel non existent but are actually heavy duty as f*?!

My DH snores really loudly, a dentist fitted him with a plate
(Moulded plastic) which helps his palate and keeps his tongue in place??! Works a treat, although he does not have it in now and is impersonating
Tugboat hooting its way across a foggy harbour.

Fight fire with fire Candy

Neighbours might not be best pleased, but hey, who gives a shit?

Wouldn't it be easier if you slept in the car?

Why would she want to do that redshifter, it's uncomfortable sleeping in a car

Yes, buts beats not sleeping in bed because of the noise.

Oh, and obviously YANBU, under the circumstances it would not BU to make him sleep in the car on the edge of a cliff & then take off the handbrake. And maybe give the car a little shove

Dh and I have never shared a bedroom because of this. He snores, I apparently talk in my sleep. We are both very much on the same page with this. We are much better off well rested than sharing a room and sleep deprived. This can't be that unusual.
Having my own bedroom and ensuite is fabulous.
If you dont have the space OP id be looking into a bigger sofa bed

Agent Zigzag :) am sorely tempted with that purchase

Thanks for all of your replies. Fingers crossed I don't resurrect this thread at 2am before I have to get up at 5.30 to trundle into work and deal with 30 little devils little angels x