to think DH should be able to take DD school shoe shopping without me and get the right size shoes?

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coz apparently I am, DD's come back with shoes that are the wrong width and too big, you would think the fact DD can't walk in them would have given him a clue wouldn't you?

Bastard won't even take them back so I've got to try and find time to do it before DD goes back to school and DD is all tearful because she loves the shoes Daddy bought her, I've tried to explain I'll get her exactly the same style just in the right size but 'they won't be the same coz they aren't the ones Daddy got.'

Its not that bloody hard to get shoes that fit, she doesn't even have awkward size feet

Being measured by the shop person doesn't mean the actual shoes your dh was given are the correct size. When ds2 was a toddler, he was measured at size 4. The assistant foostered about for about 5 minutes trying to get the shoes on him, and complained that he couldn't get the left one on because ds2 was "scrunching up his toes".
I took them saying I'd do it myself, to find one shoe was size 4 and the other was size 1... I could tell just by looking at them, but he couldn't.
And this was in John Lewis where you kind of expect them to be properly trained, to justify the bloody prices they charge.

YANBU, and I never ceased to be amazed at the level of incompetence some women seem to think is acceptable in their partners just because they happen to be men. Would you, as an intelligent adult, be able to perform this task correctly? Yes? Then so would your DP if he could be bothered to engage his brain so don't let the fucker get away with anything less.

YANBU - my husband always does it, he also does the haircuts and the dentist. I work full time and he is a teacher so has more time during the holidays. Why is he not capable?

Is he able to get clothes, his hair cut and go to the dentist OK for himself I8toys?

I can't stand people using the 'I'll only get it wrong again' line, it's utterly pathetic and childish to abdicate the normal responsibilities of an adult. Do you find your DH attractive when he pulls this crap? I certainly wouldn't and would tell him so.

IME this is the kind of attitude that comes from men who think that the children are Your Responsibility, so if they do something like getting shoes, which falls under Children and therefore Your Responsibility, then they are of the opinion that they are doing you a Massive Favour by doing it for you. Instead of, you know, Being a Parent.

And so if you dare complain that they didn't perform this task adequately, they have a big sulk and hand The Responsibility back to you, because after all, you should be grateful that they did you this Massive Favour in the first place and certainly not criticise.

YANBU, and I never ceased to be amazed at the level of incompetence some women seem to think is acceptable in their partners just because they happen to be men.

In fairness, AnnieLobeseder, whilst this is something I see a LOT of on MN, i don't think anyone has attributed this particular brand of incompetence to penis ownership (yet, at least ).

It's less about actual ownership of the penis, DoJo, and more to do with the socialisation that goes along with penis ownership. Socialisation along the lines of "Children and their shoes are things that women should deal with".

To be fair to him now I have calmed down he isn't completely incompetent and is usually much better at choosing clothes she'll actually like than I am, shoe shopping however is apparently beyond his skills.

I'm not accepting being a man as an excuse by the way, my Dad is great at school shopping, DH's failings are entirely down to him, not his penis

Yes Mollyhooper he can do all those things. My son also has talipes (club foot) so shoe fitting is extremely important for my son. :-) funnighly enough a man is capable of getting shoes that fit odd sized feet!!!!!

I8toy, I read your post completely wrong! For some reason I read it as he wasn't capable of doing all of those things, doh.

I'm relieved that you are married to a fully functioning adult. :o

I shall blame it on these super strong painkillers I've been told to take and try to read posts properly.

No worries Molly - He sure is fully functioning!!

I don't know: If knew saw the shopping list my dm used to send df out with just to get bread. You wouldn't realise how many ways of getting the wrong sort of bread (sliced brown, same make every time) there were, but df managed to do all of them, I think.