to think using my future baby names is really weird?

[LiverpoolLou]

My dad is not British. When I was with my exh I always said which names I would use for a future boy or girl. Both names are traditional family names from my dad's home country. I recently learnt from exMIL (the only one who has any contact with DD for the past 20 years) that exh has remarried and has two more children, a boy and a girl, who have been given those names.

Now I know I don't own them and I'm really not bothered from a 'you stole my names' perspective. But isn't it a bit weird when the only connection with that culture and those names is your ex wife? I can't help but wonder if his new wife knows where they come from .

I find it a bit creepy/stalkerish. AIBU?

A bit off topic but surely Paula and Orla/Orlaith don't rhyme? Depends on your accent I suppose but Irish people wouldn't say 'aula', would they?

I'm from Liverpool, my accent is as weird as weird can be. It sounds like 'aula' to me. Although I have no doubt that's probably utterly wrong.

So his new partner is from Thailand? That makes his using those names even weirder.

Maybe as someone already said he's just deeply unimaginative. As an aside I hope he's a better father to these kids than he was to your daughter. He sounds like a shit.

Since neither of them have any connection to your culture, I'm definitely going with deeply unoriginal.

I wonder if his DW can even pronounce those names, I say that because my friend has a Thai Aunt and she cant pronounce her surname properly, its Fox and she says Fock.

Yanbu, had a similar situation with ex, he named his affair child the name I had always said I wanted and I found it pretty weird. Especially given as he wasn't over keen on it and his now wife has very odd taste in names (they've had a few more since) so using the name I chose seems very out of place iyswim.
Maybe as others have pointed out it is just an almighty lack of imagination that led to the 'pinched' names.
Using both names though is pushing that theory somewhat, surely his wife would have wanted a say?

Possibly she doesn't realise that the names are quite unusual in England, they are lovely names, I think your ex just couldn't think of his own.

Just think if you had 2 children named the same!

Agree that is quite odd. Dh's ex wife insisted on honeymooning at a particular UK destination because 'it was the first place she'd kissed a boy' (not him, obviously). We've just discovered she's got remarried - at the same destination! Just screams lack of imagination.

So he's been remarried and had two children and you only found out now?

I get that your daughter does not have contact with her father but surely she'd know this from her GM that she has two half siblings?

It is weird. My ex (teenage boyfriend/first love) gave his daughter my name. I only found out stalking on Facebook. I find that wierd too. Yours is weirder though

Why would you assume that it's about you? Maybe his partner liked the name and he'd forgotten about you?

You're the one stalking him on fb.

BehindHerSmile are you the new wife??

Seriously, using both his ExW's chosen names for future DC is very weird, especially as he doesn't have any connection to Ireland himself.

I get that your daughter does not have contact with her father but surely she'd know this from her GM that she has two half siblings?

Nope. As I said my DD has sporadic contact. She's seen her once this year. Last year DD wrote a couple of times but her GM was too busy moving house to reply. Saw her a couple of times the year before and prior to that nothing for several years. It only got mentioned this time because DD told her about her new baby brother (my baby).

I agree with you, I think it's weird! Even if you'd discussed calling your kids Oliver and Amelia (I think these are number 1 here) and he then used them I'd think it was weird so this is really odd!