My niece is 14 years old. She is mixed raced, her dad is black Jamaican (I think, I've never met him, my sister fell pregnant as a teenager and never named him). My DN has been raised by her mum and their relationship is a little up and down. Anyway. DN is struggling with her body image and identity. She started straightening her hair and regularly asks to be allowed to dye it blonde. Gets very sngry and tearful when told no. Recently I caught her rubbing flour into her skin to try and make it whiter. She buys foundation with her pocket money and mixes it with moisturiser because she thinks it will make her lighter. She confessed to me when I tried to talk to her that she hates her skin and would do anything to be white and blonde 
. I am beyond devastated and really want to help her. There are no bullying issues involved although her school is 80% white with more Asian pupils than black or mixed raced pupils so she says she feels different. She constantly compares her self to others. She wants to look the same as the rest of us in our family and has no links to the other part of her heritage. Does anyone know of any where that offers support to kids like DN? I feel so useless because we are all white and blonde and I just can't seem to get through to her that she is beautiful and perfect. I want her to feel proud of who she is and celebrate her mixed heritage but I don't know where to start. She has only ever been exposed to the white side of her family and she seems to think the way me and her mum look is what she should aspire too. My family have never made any comment over the fact that she is mixed raced (because we love her and her skin colour is just not an issue or something we have ever considered) but now I'm worried we have just ignored that side of her culture and left her feeling like this. Can anyone help?