My dd has been friends with another little girl since i met her Mum at toddler. They went to pre school together and have been firn buddies throughout (with the usual toddler squabbles of course)
So they are at school now. There are only 3 girls in the year and so before they started school we (the Mums) had talked briefly about how 3 can be tricky and we should make an effort to keep them as a 3 so no one left out.
The Mum who i am most friendly with is by her own admission insecure and likes to be popular. She also has had some experience of her older dd being left out by other girls and this is a huge stress for her. I understand all of this however since the little ones have been at school she has made constant efforts with the other mum and her dd to the point that she constantly encourages her dd to call the other girl her 'best bud' and 'bff'. They do classes together at weekend and play at each others house. My dd never invited.
If it had just happened then fine but it is the complete disregard for my dd and i know if i had done this (constant invutes for play dates, classes together, nights out with the Mum) then this mum would be playing the 'im so hurt, my poor dd, why were we not invited'.
I just hate the fact that she is so sensitive when she is on the receiving end but completely insensitive to how she makes others feel.
She will text asking what im.uo to and i will text back what im doing and say 'what about you, what you doing?' And then she doesnt text back but a week later will text say ' hope everything ok? Havent heard from you in ages'.
I want to be her friend but i cant help feeling quite hurt by her actions.
I know i probably need a good slap but we live in a tiny community. There are only a few of us and i feel we need to stick together. 