to think your average 6-8 yr old can wait to go to the toilet?

[PeppaPug]

I have an 8 yr old DSD who insists that when she says she needs the toilet, she needs to be taken to find one that very minute. Similarly, several of my DDs (she's 6) friends have their parents rushing them to the toilet immediately whenever they say they need to go. So, if we're at the cinema and there's ten minutes left, they'll miss most of it. If we're eating out, our meal will be interrupted. If we are on a journey wehave to deviate, potentially waking toddler DD and causing big delays.

None of the children in question have any toileting issues but it's made me wonder if I'm unreasonable with regard to my 6 yr old. If we're eating out, going to the cinema or in the car I'll ask beforehand if she needs to use the toilet. If she doesn't then if she says while doing whatever it is that she does, I'll ask that she waits. She does without complaint and there's never been any accidents or anything but AIBU to not drop everything to take her immediately?

Also parents will be wise to note how children have no problem waiting two hours in a queue for a rollercoaster at Alton Towers, but put them somewhere less exciting and they need to go immediately

At 6 no, by 8 yes.

If the 6 year is causing problems tell them you are going before meals/going out after asking them then take them to the loo and go in a cubicle/disappear to the loo before going out.

I agree but my DD has just turned seven and she will not wait to go. She’s quite an anxious child and worries enormously about peeing herself. I’d rather take her to pee than have her panicking and ruining a film at the cinema for other people for example.

Sorry, the whole pooing thing in the morning has me somewhat baffled! Not even so much the fact that a pp thinks a child can be trained to go in the morning, but it seems then the assumption is that adults can go at a specific time? So do adults only poo in the mornings? I go when I need to go! I didn't know I could train my self to do anything else? Have I missed something somewhere?

Yanbu to ask them to wait a few minutes if it's inconvenient but at 6 I think there can be a big difference in children's behaviour and how well they cope with things. I certainly wouldn't leave a child who requested the toilet to wait in a cafe or cinema.
The 'not allowed' during lessons is a bit of a sore subject for me and I appreciate you don't want children messing about toing and froing to the loos and maybe they should have gone at breaks, but still we all get caught out sometimes? It feels a bit harsh. DS (age 5 not yr 5 so obviously different) had a teacher who wouldn't allow it and he sat there and weed himself as he was too scared to ask it really stayed with him, that panic and humitigation and it made his eczema so sore. Awfully, it happened to others too. Horrible women!

@Mrsredwine year 5 aren't 6, 7 or 8 years old.

Hence why some average 6 year olds cannot control their bladders but by the time they are 8 they should be able to.

In my experience the majority of MNers have children with SN for some reason so this might be a poor place to ask..

Not even at the end of page one and the snarky comments about SN children have started.

If my DC say they need the toilet and we're somewhere that has a toilet then I let them go as it feels unkind to the point of cruel to make them wait purely for the sake of it. To use the examples given, if it's in the cinema and there are only a few minutes left or we're in a restaurant and our food has just arrived then I'll ask "can you wait a few minutes?" but if the answer is no, then off they go. The oldest two (8yo and 6yo) are old enough to go themselves anyway especially in a restaurant where the toilet entrance is nearly always visible from most places in the room, if DSD is 8yo then can she not go herself? I tell them "straight there and straight back again" and that if they're gone too long I will come looking for them, I watch them go in the door and then watch them for coming out again. I've never had to go looking for them. If we are somewhere that doesn't have a toilet immediately available such as the opposite end of the high street to the nearest toilet, then I tell them I'll take them but they'll have to wait as we're at x-location, the toilets are at y-location, and it'll take us z-minutes to get there.

DSS (8) is a pain for this sort of thing. Whenever we take him back to his mum’s which is 75 miles away, we always get him to wee first. Guaranteed we have to stop at least twice on the motorway So annoying. He definitely doesn’t go that much when he is at our house.

Thing is in public there may well be a queue and the 5 minutes queuing after waiting 10 mins could be too long to wait.

The piss troll brought this thread back so I wouldn't give any toilet stories on this one.

Agreed, this reeks of (piss) troll. Reported and recommend nobody shares anything unless/until mnhq confirm...

WTF is a piss troll?

Piss trolls posts have been deleted. Must get tired of own threads being deleted so brings up an old thread because even if their posts get deleted, the thread stays up.

It's a pervert that gets off on reading stories of children not being allowed to go to the toilet etc.

This is a zombie thread so why are people commenting???

mother - a sick weirdo who gets off on posting threads about children being denied the toilet. He crops up every couple of days. Normally I agree with no troll hunting as it spoils threads, but this guy is so worryingly persistent, and he can get many more stories for his wankbank before hq get the chance to delete it, so if the posts stop people from sharing, it'll scupper him.

Bloody hell!! [Angry] didn't notice zombie thread or piss troll