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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To want to throttle the Tesco delivery driver?

19 replies

SingingSilver · 26/08/2014 12:47

He turned up at 11 to deliver my shopping. I had to brace myself to open the front door because I have a head cold and I was feeling so cold and shivery I was even debating whether I should put the heating on (In August? Never!) I'd also been out earlier in the day having four vials of blood taken at the doctor's for an ongoing thyroid issue, and felt so woozy I had to sit on a park bench for 10 minutes before I could carry on walking.

It was raining, so I got the food in quickly so he wouldn't have to hang around too long. As I was signing the gadget thing I just commented 'It's cold isn't it?' He said 'No, I'm warm! If you were out working you'd be warm. Do you want to swap with me?' He had a smile on his face so I took it as him joking and laughingly agreed, but he repeated it two or three times getting increasingly more passive aggressive until I just shut the door on him.

Of course, NOW I have my reply 'Yes I could run around in the rain to get warm, but then my head cold could well turn into hypothermia you giant twat', but it's too late. Am I just being over sensitive?

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trikken · 26/08/2014 12:52

Yes sorry, you are a little bit. Hope you feel better soon though.

awsomer · 26/08/2014 12:53

Bit of a wierd comment from him but YAB a bit U to get this riled by it. But to be fair I do sympathise, being poorly is never fun. Look after yourself today; wrap up warm and tuck into all your lovely food, youll be feeling more chipper in no time.

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SingingSilver · 26/08/2014 12:55

OK, fair enough then IABU! I'll see if the cat will let me share the sofa with her and hibernate for an hour or so, I might feel a bit brighter after a nap!

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BuzzardBird · 26/08/2014 12:57

If this makes you feel any better I once really kicked off at a BT engineer who was trying to repair my lightning struck phone when he said "Why don't you work?" I really gave him what for, my disabilities and problems with childcare etc, only to be told he was talking to the phone!

PourquoiTuGachesTaVie · 26/08/2014 12:58

He needs to learn a bit about customer service!

trikken · 26/08/2014 12:59

Enjoy your nap. wish I can't nap too but cant as the kids will jump all over me and I have to get ready for work in a bit.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 26/08/2014 13:01

I think, on balance, YANBU. If he had said it only once, I might have considered it to be a slightly tactless, off-the-cuff remark - but the fact he kept repeating it was rude and shows this is really what he thinks.

For all he knows, you do work, and this is your day off, or you work and are off sick - and he should know better than to make stupid comments like this to any of his customers!

I hope you have a nice snuggle with the cat, and a good nap, and that you feel better soon.

Pootles2010 · 26/08/2014 13:03

YAB a bit U - its only a head cold! He was just being friendly - why didn't you mention you were ill? He probably would have left you alone a bit quicker then!

[Buzzard] that did make me smile! You must have been a bit pink...

BuzzardBird · 26/08/2014 13:05

'Puce' would have been more accurate

Siarie · 26/08/2014 13:10

Some of the things those drivers say! I wouldn't let it bother you. I'm a stay at home house wife and do my DH admin for his business. So I am often the one in for the Tesco delivery but the food is in my DH name.

I had one guy rock up to my door and I opened it, I said hello and he looked at me. Then said "Mr * eh?" And I said "It's in my husbands name" not that it even matters since their terms and conditions state any adult can accept the delivery. But the he kept saying it as if I was doing something wrong or stealing my own shopping!?

Honestly after that you just learn to ignore them, the drivers change all the time because Tesco has a struck policy on stealing items. Apparently it happens a lot and thus you probably won't have to see his face again anyway!

Siarie · 26/08/2014 13:12

Strict* that was meant to say, oh and you do get the occasional good drive who stays again and again but all the bad ones just get sacked

ILovedYouYesterday · 26/08/2014 13:47

To say it once could be just making a little joke and trying to be friendly but not to keep going on about it.

But does he assume none of his customers work at all because they are not at work at the same time as him?

For all he knew you could have been just back from a nightshift saving lives in A&E (not that it's any of his business or that it matters that you were not!)

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 26/08/2014 13:57

Exactly, ILoved - we are as one on this. Great minds.

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SingingSilver · 26/08/2014 14:02

I've decided that as I laughed along the first time he decided to go for a few encores. Otherwise he's just a knob, but it's no skin off my nose! I'm snuggled on the sofa with Daisy watching Pride & Prejudice (the good 1990's one) and aside from the fact that I have to breath through my mouth I'm feeling much happier.

He probably does think I just sit in front of daytime TV all day (the last time it was on was for Doctor Who, and now for P&P on Netflix!) but I do currently have three weekdays free so I'm able to be home for deliveries. I'm actually trying to find more work, so if I was well I actually wouldn't have minded swapping with him!

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GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 26/08/2014 14:09

Don't worry about it. It was mildly funny the first time. You laughed this is all the encouragement a comedian needs, so he repeated it twice more for good measure. I laugh at my own jokes sometimes even if no one else does....

Flingmoo · 26/08/2014 14:22

YANBU.

I do imagine these delivery folks judging all the people they deliver to who answer the door in their PJs, thinking "why aren't these lazy buggers at work?!". It can't be nice working hard in all weather conditions so it's sort of an understandable sentiment... But people are at home during weekdays for all sorts of reasons, doesn't mean they're lazily unemployed. I am on my maternity leave with my little baby, I always feel a bit self conscious when I answer the door in my PJs, I almost feel like I have to explain myself!

whois · 26/08/2014 15:08

He said it with a smile yeah? They are meant to make small talk.

You should have replied "no thanks, I'd never be able to do all that lifting" or something and smiled back.

He meant nothing by it.

hmc · 26/08/2014 15:14

You should have sneezed on him - then he could have enjoyed a bit of downtime at home after a couple of days incubation

PenisesAreNotPink · 26/08/2014 15:14

You just have to not care what people think - random strangers opinions on your life don't matter

Sometimes when my Ocado delivery comes I'm in my pyjamas because I've done 6 hours gardening, had a bath and got into pj's as I'm not going out.

And sometimes it's cause I've been reading a book and hadn't got dressed yet

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