"Can we go to Pizza Express? Pizza Hut is a bit common and low quality"

[Edieandkoala]

Says Ds friend to me just now. Apparently, his family 'don't do' Pizza Hut.

Wibu not to take the ungrateful git anywhere for lunch now?

First time he's been to our house. So far, I've been told how small it is, asked how much dh earns, asked if this is a council house and asked why we didn't wait to have baby dd until we had a bigger house.

Ds is mortified.

[RiverTam]

I would tell her actually, make the point that her DS is going to meet all sorts and if he goes around saying that kind of thing he is going to be in for a very rough time indeed.

[MrsWinnibago]

Yes he will be! Anyone with an ounce of taste and class would drop him like a hot potato if he said those sort of things. He needs telling.

[PlumpPartridge]

I'd tell him, not his mum. He's the one who will suffer at school, not her. There is just the smallest smidgen of a chance that he doesn't know he's being an arse.

[Poofus]

Please don't make up an excuse. His parents need to know how rude he was. Even if they don't care now, if everyone sends him home because he was rude they will realise something needs to change.

[GooseberryJam]

If she doesn't care to start with that he's been rude, though, she might do when she realises that it will lose him the friends he clearly wants for him. I'd agree you have the upper hand here. Certainly if she asks again, say 'No, he was rude last time and we'd like DS to have friends with better manners'.

[ColdTeaAgain]

Wow he's going to grow up to be a real delight isn't he! But it is the fault of his parents, he is obviously getting his attitude from them for the most part. No point telling him or his mum about the rudeness, that sort of snobbery can't be reasoned with. I wouldn't waste my breath but certainly wouldn't have him back again.

Feel your DS, bit embarrassing for him. But be thankful he is aware the lad is out of order. At least you know you are bringing yours up well. Hopefully, this'll be the last you see of that one!

[LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726]

I much prefer Pizza Hut to Pizza Express but that kid is a brat. If he were mine and you reported the house/pizza comments to me, OP, I would sincerely apologise to you, try to assure you that he wasn't dragged up, honest - and I'd ground him. I'd be so mortified.

Would every parent want to know if their child had been rude? I would, definitely.

[tittifilarious]

Thankfully my kids are here today or this could be about one of mine! Well the Pizza Hut being rubbish bit anyway! We haven't been I over 2 years as last time we went, everything was rubbery and greasy and we paid over £40 for the pleasure. Although pizza express is nicer, it's double the price so we don't go there either. We now go to an independent place which is cheaper than Pizza Hut but so much nicer.

Anyway, aside from the Pizza Hut/express debate that kid is bloody rude and I don't think your BU to send him home. My 7 yo knows you don't act like that!

[SilveryMoon]

Don't make up an excuse. Please tell the mother exactly why you are taking him home early.
Agree with other posters, you have the upper hand here to put the stuck-up cow in her place. Like most normal people, I couldn't care less what your profession is, or even if you have one. Don't care what car you drive or whether you live in a house/flat/caravn/box. Owned/rented.
What I do care about, is others manners. And I would tell her that unfortunately, you don't feel her ds is a suitable friend for your ds at the moment due to his shockingly bad manners and inappropriate comments.
Feel a little for the kid, if his parents are like this the poor sod doesn't stand a chance

[Eva50]

I wouldn't lie about an appointment I would just say he and ds are not getting on and and he doesn't want to eat at Pizza Hut. Don't ever invite him again!

[TalcumPowder]

Yes, I would tell his mother in the context of it likely to make him have difficulties at husband new school. 'Oh X, I thought you would want to know that Y was asking some rude personal questions and making very rude comments along the lines of abc at our house today. If he's not spoken to about it, it's going to cause him massive difficulties at school. I'm saying this because in your position, I would want to know so I could tackle it before he finds himself ostracised.'

She might take it more seriously in that context, though she sounds hellish.

[TalcumPowder]

HIS new school. Grr.

[GhoulWithADragonTattoo]

I wouldn't tell her. What good would come of it? Especially if she is awful snob too. Who wants an atmosphere going forward? Just take him back at 1pm and then take DS to Pizza Hut afterwards / this evening instead.

I think the best advice is for DS to avoid the boy school as his unpopularity may rub off.

[TaliZorahVasNormandy]

I think that kid might find a lack of friends at Secondary school. I bet the fact that he didnt get into the private school is a huge source of embarrassment for his parents.

[RiverTam]

what good would come of it is that she and her DS might realise that with an attitude like that he is going to have a really bad time at school. Who wants that for their child? She is obviously concerned about him settling in, so you'd hope (forlornly, possibly) that she would want to help him.

[Edieandkoala]

I've got a funny anecdote about his mother....

Obviously she is chair of the PTA at the primary. We helped out at a fundraiser last year with something dh is knowledgeable about. Anyway, so she was introducing everyone, using their job titles. When she got to us, she says "this is Edie, she's gone back to university to study law, and this is her husband, mrEdie.......he's from the north".

We were

[NigellasPeeler]

she sounds like a right one

[Edieandkoala]

The boy was mr popular in primary, but there is a bigger mix of children at the secondary, so I think he (and his mum) will struggle.

[TaliZorahVasNormandy]

Omg, Edie, how to resist not goading or embarrassing her. From the North indeed.

[Kablooger]

i am on #teamvisitingkid

Pizza hut smells of desparation

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

mrEdie......he's from the north

Oh she sounds delightful

[GhoulWithADragonTattoo]

They won't change their ways on OP's say so. They'll just decide she's rude and it be awkward every time they meet.

[bishboschone]

He is obviously just repeating what his parents say . What a vile attitude !

[Corygal]

I really would tell the parents when you take him home, now.

[finallydelurking]

I've encountered loads of kids like that over the years. We have several kids and live in a v 'naice' area. Little kids I just smile answer their questions or explain politely why I'm not going to. I have given kids the option on occasions of doing what we planned or being dropped home early (and done so with a smile) at 12 I'd outright tell off and not have back, no point telling the parents at that age, that attitude is no longer cute/amusing it's genetic!!