"Can we go to Pizza Express? Pizza Hut is a bit common and low quality"

[Edieandkoala]

Says Ds friend to me just now. Apparently, his family 'don't do' Pizza Hut.

Wibu not to take the ungrateful git anywhere for lunch now?

First time he's been to our house. So far, I've been told how small it is, asked how much dh earns, asked if this is a council house and asked why we didn't wait to have baby dd until we had a bigger house.

Ds is mortified.

[FarelyKnuts]

He's 12. Obviously parroting his parents opinions and hardly grown up enough to realise they are prats. Can you not just laugh it off and say sorry kid but we've different standards round here so are you coming or will we drop you home?

[ChickenFajitaAndNachos]

He sounds a rude little shite, if that's what he says imagine earwigging on his parents.

[Needingthework]

I would do what squirrelweasel suggested - I would tell him that that's ok and start looking for something from the freezer, then take DS out to PH later.

[clam]

Give him a ham sandwich for lunch"

And not "naice ham" either!

[SilveryMoon]

Ignore me, do what KingJoffrey said.

[Nancy66]

Pizza Hut do a pizza where the crust is stuffed with hamburgers!

[Curlyweasel]

I wouldn't make up an excuse. I'd just phone his mum or dad, explain what's happened and say you'll be dropping him off.

My DD (8) is sadly starting to show these sorts of horrible traits (despite my best efforts to explain that what she's saying is rude/non of her business etc).

We're a very polite and fairly strict family in terms of parenting but it seems to have no effect - she's just can't seem to help herself. We aren't very good at maintaining punishments/consequences though

Still, I'd fully expect such rudeness to be dealt with appropriately.

xx

[Leeds2]

At 12, he really ought to know better.

And I'm sorry that your son is having a rough time with his supposed friend.I think you would be better using your Pizza Hut vouchers to take just DS out when the boy has gone home.

[bunnybing]

Had it the other way round on dd1s bday - apparently Pizza Express pizzas are too small and come with a hole and leaves in the middle and Pizza Hut ones are bigger and better and if I didn't comply with this wish she would tell her mum and I would get into trouble.

Fun times!

[hiddenhome]

Lol, the kid has standards

[Edieandkoala]

His parents would not be mortified! His mother is the same.

The reason this boy is here is that he didn't get into the private schools they tried for, failed the exams, so now he's going to the (actually very good) local comp with ds. He doesn't get on with the rest of the kids from the primary who are going there (more to the point, his mother doesn't like their mothers), so she wanted him to feel comfortable next week.

I'm a sap and I felt sorry for the boy, even though I can't stomach his mother.

I think she thought ds was a suitable friend as she did her digging and found out that I was very well off pre divorce and that ds father is quite well known (in his v boring field!). She wouldn't touch me with a barge pole before that, shallow cow.

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

We aren't very good at maintaining punishments/consequences though

Curly you need to get a handle on her behaviour then, she'll be an unpopular child in years to come otherwise.

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

Edie are you keeping him all day still or sending him home?

[Longdistance]

Drop him home early, and say why ie, that he's being ill mannered and intrusive.

My db used to have a friend like this. His dps were so snobby. He did eventually go to private school and they snubbed the local schools. Weirdly enough, he's a journo for the DM Says it all really.

[PeterParkerSays]

and you're not going to touch her now OP. Take the blasted child home and tell her he will not be welcome back until his manners improve. You have the upper hand here if her son needs your DS to be his one friend in a school where the other kids shun him because he keeps going on about the £9k school he used to go to.

[StackladysMorphicResonator]

Yikes, sounds like the kid is in for a shock when he gets to his new school - if he makes those kind of remarks to people he'll be ostracised by his peers. If I was your DS I wouldn't want to be too closely associated with him in case he's tarred with the same brush (although I acknowledge that this is harsh - it's not the kid's fault he's like this, it's his parents').

[Edieandkoala]

I'm going to send him home.

fictitious dr appointment for the baby that I totally forgot about! She honestly wouldn't care if her son had been rude.

I've text his mother, I'm dropping him home at one.

[ShakesBootyFlabWobbles]

He is being incredibly rude.
I would do something like the first poster suggested, give him the choice to go with you to PH for lunch or go home. Sounds like your son wouldn't be too bothered to see him go anyway.
Hope it works out.

[YouTheCat]

Tell him he's going home as he has no manners.

Tell his mother that, sadly, money can't buy class or good manners and you'd rather your son doesn't associate with 'his sort'.

Then make sure the little sod goes back home and go and have a nice pizza with your ds, who sounds lovely.

[ShakesBootyFlabWobbles]

ooops cross post
It will be a sigh of relief when the car door closes

[Nancy66]

she might care that her kid will have a nightmare time at school if he doesn't do something about his behaviour.

[Curlyweasel]

StillClassy I know, I know!

Have been putting it down to her acting up because of the new/unexpected arrival of a DB. When I say it's like she can't help herself, it really is... she's a really kind and sensitive girl generally. Always looking out for her friends and fiercely loyal.

It's just horrible that she only opens her mouth to change feet - there's no self-edit button.

[KingJoffreysBloodshotEye]

If I was your DS I wouldn't want to be too closely associated with him in case he's tarred with the same brush.

I agree.

I've kept DS away from certain children because I didn't want him copying bad behaviour. This is much the same.

[MrsWinnibago]

I'd tell his parents too! I'd just say "We've decided to drop him off early because he's been intolerably rude about our home and where I was going to take them for lunch." And then I'd bloody go! Little shite.

[MrsWinnibago]

Some of my 10 year old's friends are frighteningly aware of car brands, house size and other stuff they need not think about. It puts me off them. in fact there's NOTHING more "common" than discussing and asking questions about money.