to want to visit a campsite that doesn't revolve around children

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Where you are able to stay up and have a quiet drink after 10pm without being shushed every 3 minutes?

Myself and friends went away on weekend and each morning we were woken by kids playing outside our tent at 7am, yet we were shouted at for daring to stay up past 10pm.

I know I will get roasted for this but I don't care.

I totally agree, we always book adults only accommodation because of this. Would be interested to hear if campsites are included

YANBU. Most campsites we've stayed in have a family field and also an area which is an adults only area. To be honest I've never had an issue with people making noise in the evening as the children are always so exhausted they would sleep through pretty much anything. Keeping them quiet in the morning however is a whole lot harder!

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Plenty to choose from there OP, hope your fellow campers are as inconsiderate as you

Its not even as if it was that late though. We were talking at normal volume around a fire. The lady in the tent next to us kept shushing us.

All day every day she was shouting at her children to behave or they are going home. I dont think they actually spoke to their kids, just shouted the whole time.

It's everyones holiday

We are now starting to look for child free or adult friendly I like children just mine is 16 and the youngest anyway yanbu to want to stay up and chat past 10 without being shushed campsite we have used last few years put the younger families together in another field when they can,

I woild have told her to do one tbh

Its put us off camping as wherever we pitch, a family come next to us. Why can't they have a field for families and a field for groups? Arghhh! Another holiday RUINED!

Your OP said you were 'shouted at', which is really out of order. In your place I would have moved to a different part of the site as I couldn't spend all day sitting around a tent listening to shouty parents. If I was being shushed then I might have been tempted to shush them right back from 7am onwards, and then moved when that got boring.

Last year we had a shout y family so glad we were leaving in 2 days all we heard was david daavid daavid for 2 days just shush

As far as I'm concerned you have to have a bit of give and take when you're camping. As long as someone isn't up partying until 4am, then some noise of them socialising in the late evening is fair enough imo. My children do rise early, but I do my very best to keep them as quiet as possible until after 8 at least.

Sorry, but unless you booked an adults only site YABU. I've never come across a campsite which didn't have rules about quiet after 10 and before 6. 10 is late for young kid so sitting around talking in normal tones is rude and intrusive. Would you go into a kids bedroom an do that? Noise carries extremely clearly so you were effectively doing that.

If you can't understand and work with the needs of the larger community in the camp site then stay away from them.

I've been on campsites where the farmer would have kicked you all out at 7 am for breaking rules, so a bit of shushing sounds tame. Perhaps next time you could take the hint and keep the noise down. If staying up after 10 is a deal breaker and ruins your holiday, you really need to stay away from family campsites.

Yanbu, it would be great if there were two separate areas.

Yes to adult only places. That's where DH and I used to always go pre children. It's just much easier when you have different expectations. My 3yo wakes at 5am every morning and comes and wake everyone up. Life is just very different.

Maybe your neighbour is kickass op

Sounds like your problem is more to do with your shouty neighbour than the camp itself. But then as someone whose performing group regularly camps when we're doing events, we make a point of selecting campsites carefully as well as being equally careful about where we pitch camp.

Anywhere that's mainly catering for families will expect a certain degree of quiet at night. You can also expect that children should be able to enjoy the freedom that camping with kids bring. When my DCS were young, camping was perfect for them precisely because they could run around safely. Not that anything disturbed their sleep, to be honest, because by the end of the day they were tired out!

Now I go on child-free camps we look for sites that divide groups from families and pitch in the non-family area or we choose sites that are adults only. That way you don't get the clash of expectations.

If I were you, OP, I'd move your tent somewhere else on the site.

I pick places that revolve around children, because for me holidays are for my children.

If I'm lucky I have 7 years left before my youngest children is in her teens and wanting to do her own thing. I make sure their childhoods are filled with lots of happy memories.

If you don't want this, as I suspect once the DC are grown up, then pick adults only holidays where 10pm is early.

Some campsites do have a family camping bit, but most don't.

I don't mind being awoken by kids at 7am, seeing as I'm there with my own lot - even if mine are far more civilised getting up at about 8.30.

What I do mind is the way complete silence descents at 10 sharp, and being made to feel awkward about wanting to continue my evening. We got shushed at Fisherground 2 out of 3 nights we were there, for talking to one another (not shouting, talking) after 10 pm.
That's no fun.

*descends

YANBU - don't go to campsites for families.

But even so - no campsite expects normal conversation to stop at 10pm so I'd have told her to get lost. If you weren't playing music, weren't drunk (and so maybe louder than you realised), were talking quietly, you weren't doing anything wrong.

I prefer campsites with a family area so I don't feel so guilty about my early risers. However I also enjoy a chat and few drinks after the kids are in bed and wouldn't appreciate being shushed whilst doing this. I guess my best adult camping experiences have been on sites that struck a happy balance between rave and silent retreat.

I have never stayed on a campsite where you are expected to be quiet from 10pm. Yes not playing music and partying, but sitting outside talking has laways been totally fine. 10pm is early. When I go camping we sit outside and talk till 12pm or 1am, and we are rarely the only ones.

If there were no rules about this, she is being unreasonable and I would have told her so.

We've never had too much trouble finding sites that separate groups from families but also, even if they don't, that's not necessarily going to be a problem. It's more how the site is managed that makes the difference and we've learned to read the "tone" of a site on their website or by checking reviews. Because some campsites just relish rules and regulations. If you don't want to be subject to that sort of regime then avoid that sort of site at all costs.

The other week we'd been booked to appear at a festival that was cancelled. Being all geared up to go away we decided on a local'ish group camp weekend. One of the sites looked ideal until we read the reviews and discovered that the camp owners imposed a regime of silence after 9.30pm.We're not rowdy but that would have been a recipe for disaster. So we looked elsewhere and found the perfect site which, as gildedlily says, struck a happy balance between rave and silent retreat. The owners just wanted people to enjoy camping. They had no interest in micro-managing the experience so it was dismal for everyone.

YANBU. We camp at a very rough-and-ready site so we don't get that sort of shite.

I thought that was one of the advantages of camping? The kids can sleep in the tent and you can sit just outside having some wine and chatting. No worries about babysitting or being forced to go to bed early with the kids.