WIBU to refuse an request for my 4 year old to participate in the ice bucket challenge?

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I appreciate that it has done wonders for an underfunded and very deserving charity (though it annoys me massively that people are now doing it for any old charity of their choice) but I don't think it's appropriate for me to sit my four year old son on a deck chair and drench him with iced water. If he were fourteen I'd do it because he'd understand the concept. If it were a roaring hot July day we'd probably play out with water pistols. I just don't feel comfortable about doing this. So WIBU and curmudgeonly to refuse?

Oh and the person who nominated him was asking us to donate to MacMillan.

Do it or don't do it. No one gives a flying monkey about your ice bucket challenge.

Tell them to fuck off!

brokenhearted thats awful

I was nominated. No way on fucking earth am I drenching myself in water. I posted this instead.

You don't HAVE to do it, you know -it's not compulsory! My DH did it and 7 year old was desperate to do it too. I filled the bucket with luke warm water and only filled it half way so only a little bit of water went on. He loved it. His was only for fun as he wanted to copy but my point is no-one would know if the water wasn't freezing if you were desperate for them to take part. :-)

People are acting like it's the law to do it if you're nominated

There's nothing wrong with a kid having water poured over it's head - it's not cruelty or child abuse if the kid wants to do it and the water isn't going to scald or freeze them. Kids tip water over the heads in paddling pools all the time - this time, it'll be for a worthwhile cause, which imo is a really good thing.

If you don't want to do it, say no.

If I dumped a bucket of water on my DD (7), not matter the temp, she have the right hump with me for very long time. If anyone nominates me, I'll tell them to fuck off, I volunteer with a charity, I'm already doing my bit.

Nobody is suggesting you 'dump' water. Well done for volunteering.

i,m not surewhat the big deal is really people areraising a lot of money for an otherwise underfunded charity/ies no I wouldn't let my four year old d it but if my seven year old wanted to do it I would let him not freezing cold water but I would let him do it I don't know anyone who has MND/ ALS But my youngest son has a rare genetic disorder its good to raise awareness and money to hopefully find either a cure or make peoples lives easier isn't it?,

No idea what this is about but my son's class did a sponsored walk for water last year and they had to carry 6 litres of water for so and so miles.

At the end all the kids tipped out the bottled water onto the ground.

I had got ds fizzy water as I knew I'd drink it afterwards and he was the only one who carried it the exra mile or so back to school.

Totally totally weird, wasteful and bonkers.

I've seen someone as young as 2 do it. Was done with warm water in a beach bucket and he thought it was hilarious. He'd wanted water on his head after seeing his teenage sister and cousins doing it.

I have been nominated but a temp health issue means I can't but dd who is 10 and her friend want to do it. They love water, know it is for charity and think it's a bit of fun.

I assume usually a child is nominated because they have seen it being done and want to do it, hence someone close to them include them in their nominations. No one, as far as I know, is ever suggesting throwing water over another person, adult or child, without their knowledge or permission first.

But no one is forced to do it anyway.

And obviously people with medical conditions should just not do it at all or, if they want to be involved, alter the challenge to something they can do.

At 4y dd would have found it hilarious to have a bucket of water thrown over it. Tbh in the summer she probably often did through water fights, paddling pools, etc

i saw a child of about three get doused today on my FB and to be quite frank if I knew them I would report them for cruelty. She looked confused and shocked and there was ice in the water.

Nominating a child is madness, adults are old enough to do stupid things.

It's wasteful, done to show off and forces people to donate to a charity just because their friends say they should. Charity giving is very personal, this is even worse that goat buying!

MrsWinnibago If that video came up on your FB feed, then it is either a friend of your, in which case you would know enough details to report them, or it is a public video, in which case could you post a link please?

Kids have got involved because they have seen friends and parents do it. I have seen parents nominate their own children and children nominate their own parents. Some may have found the water colder than expected, but that is not cruel or harmful.

Sadly those who enjoy being cruel to little kids will always find some way to humiliate or upset their children.

It's only a danger with this that it might seem to legitimise it in some way. Hopefully most people will just take it as it's intended and not try and involve their toddlers in something they cannot comprehend, and that will upset them.

I think programmes like You've been Framed help legitimise child cruelty tbh. They are always showing little children being hurt.

Children are a very fine line. Animals are a definite no-no and if I find out that anybody I know personally has done this to an animal then I would report them immediately.

There's currently one on twitter of a very little girl, 2 years old having water poured over her .

I'm not linking but Gary Lineker has retweeted it, not good viewing [she's not distressed in the clip, btw]

THe kids I know who've done it have seen both parents do it, and bigger siblings and begged to not be left out. The whole family has had a laugh doing it together then all gone inside for hot showers and warm drinks and to make their donations. I don't see the harm. My son's too young but if he was old enough to ask to do it then i don't think it's any different from letting him jump into a cold swimming pool or the sea on holiday.

I saw one today.not a child I know seems to be circulating FB.Child got up and said Fuck me... Nice

star yeah , that's the one.

Seriously you'd report someone for throwing water on an animal? That's absolutely ridiculous and I'm sure you'd be laughed at! It's water FGS!

As for child cruelty, every clip I've seen has shown the kids introduce it enthusiastically and then laugh their head off afterwards, even the small kids! Can't believe the fuss....absolutely pathetic.

Ive seen one on fb of a 2yo girl apparently.willingly participating, and afterwards she jumps up and says 'fucking hell' or something like that! Was quite funny but I couldn't throw cold water on my child deliberately. How can they possibly understand even what it is for?