To NOT want my DS to call me "Aunty Cas?"

[MrsSlave]

We are currently visiting my in-laws and are 2 weeks into it.

Anyway, we see my nephew most days. He is two. Since we have been visiting he hasn't called me, "Cas" or "Aunty Cas," instead he calls me "Mum." The only reason he does this is because he hears my DS call me, "Mum."

Now, I do correct him when he calls me "Mum" but he is two and is obviously confused. He naturally calls his own Mum, Mummy. So that isn't an issue.

Yesterday however, I overheard my SIL asking my 6 year old DS to call me "Aunty Cas" when around my nephew. WHAT? I understand she probably feels sensitive about this but I will not have my son calling my "Aunty Cas." Especially because we see my nephew every single day while down here visiting.

So, I am thinking that perhaps a quick chat to my SIL is needed? Just to explain that I understand where she is coming from, but think that another action is needed when correcting what he calls me. I mean, he is only two... I am pretty sure he will grow out of this over the next few weeks/months anyway.

Before I speak to her though, I thought that obviously the world of MN needed to tell me whether I was being UR or not?

yANBU but I'd say something in person. Or when it occurs correct your nephew 'I'm your Auntie Cas, I'm X's Mummy'
Other times just answer 'yes Auntie Cas will help you etc'.

Tell your own son to ignore his Aunt.

speak to your son tell him he should refer to you as mum (to your face) and MY mum behind your back never ever aunty cas thats just silly and have a word with sil also she is being a bit precious

for the record my friends kids called me mom i corrected them every time and my friend didnt get precious about it fgs most kids call there teacher mom/dad at some point!

You see, what I don't understand is why, when you overheard her telling your son that - why didn't you deal with it straight away? Go over to her, take her to one side and tell her it's not a good idea and you'll sort it with your son. Now it's more of an issue than it should be because you let it go, but anyway, sit down with her and just tell her - it's confusing for your son and if he calls you Aunty Cas you'll set him straight. (Chances are he won't do it anyway, he's been calling you Mum for long enough...).

Why didn't you just say 'no, that's daft and confusing.' Surely you are an adult and can just say so?

Why didn't you right then say something? It's not really something you can be uncertain about what to do. Your son is your son, not sure why you would entertain pretending another relationship for him.

Is your SIL going to go around asking other people to do this? Probably not so i would ignore that.

Peeking, I would have but my husband told me to leave it alone. Obviously I don't feel I can leave it alone. It won't be made into an issue, my SIL is very easy to talk to and I am certain she will understand but thought it was best to check first that perhaps I didn't sound like I was being too precious?

Talk to her about it, YANBU. It's confusing for your DS having to remember to call you Auntie Cas around his cousin. If SIL is easy to talk to, it shouldn't be a problem. :)

I am a teacher. 15year olds call me mum on a regular basis
When they call me dad is when I start to worry

riskit4abiskit

Don't they call you Mum as a form of Ma'am rather than as a form of Mother?

No its more like ...
Mum, can I...I mean miss!
Haha you called her mum.
I didn't!

Do children usually get in a muddle over what to call different adults? Never happened with my DC or my DGC so I've never come across it before.

I don't see how your DS being encouraged to call you "Aunty Cas" rather than "Mum or Mummy" solves anything, to be honest!

Two year olds are just getting their heads around the complicated world of who's who in the family but you don't help matters by confusing them further.

I remember my dd and my nephew arguing about who was mammy when they were two.

Just keep saying

'auntie cas will get you a spoon'

'Would you like auntie cas to fasten your coat?

'auntie cas loves this story'

Until he gets it. Which won't be long.