Would you expect your ex to let you know if your child had been in A&E?

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Just that really.

I obv don't want to post identifying details but just wondered if you'd be pissed off if your child had been to A&E and you didn't know until a few days later?

Does it make a difference if it is the RP or NRP that is in the know or not?

Does the age of the child make a difference?

Had to take dd into A & E today with an ear infection. TBH after 4 nights of disturbed sleep and her father being away I didn't think to tell him, and if he gets cross that I didn't I'll just say that it was the usual problem with them (has had problems on and off for years) and didn't want to spoil his time away.....didn't really think to tell him as it's just one of those things and not like a break or an admittance

depends on the situation really my boys are always in ooh care (we have no a&e) plus minor injuries i would probably text him to tell him he was fine but he should know how fast they get sick so i would expect him to understand if i was unable to text him before

I'd want to know definitely. Mine are 5 and 7.

I always tell ExH if kids are in hospital. Half the time he doesn't reply and couldn't come anyway but we have an amicable co parenting relationship and I think it's the right thing to do. I think if I was bitter and cynical about the breakup still I'd probably not tell him is there a lot of history here OP? I saw on another thread this morning you seemed to indicate you dislike the ex. But it didn't explain why.

Op I was pilled up for not letting my ex know dd ( 14 back then) had been to a&e until we got home afterwards.
Dd was accident prone so many trips, I thought it was s sprain, turned out it was a broken leg. So I let him know within 6 hours of the accident.

I hadn't seen it as a big deal

After this event dd had two other trips to a&e and he never informed me, she broke her wrist and there was another but can't remember

To me the most important thing is the DC is in a&e and safe, that the DC has who they want and need with them.

Dd2 was blue lighted this year three time, the first she was with her dad and it took him two hours to let me know...they were 110 moles away and tbh I was in ignorant bliss, but nearly found out from a friend who was there.

The next time did was with me and I phoned before the ambulence left so he could know and decide what he wanted to do - we were 50 miles from home, he stayed home and I kept him informed

The third time we were both there

The most important thing in all this is that both parents put there differences aside and get on with what there DC need at thistime and sometimes both parents aren't needed, just one is fine.

Dontstep I do dislike her but that has grown over the years and it's not just because she is the 'ex'. I haven't explained why as I don't want to put up too much identifying details, I try very hard to keep some things generic. I have been with my DH for over 13 years. That's 13 years of ex-angst, her expecting his support in issues but never supporting him in issues, things like not telling him about parents evening until the day before then criticizing him when he can't attend, doing all she can to subvert DH's relationship with his child and sadly, it's worked.

This not letting him know about SDC being ill is just the latest in a long string. DH has pulled back the 'pressure' on the DSChild hugely but then is accused of not being interested.

He hasn't contacted the ex about this as she'll deflect the issue of her not telling him by criticizing him for not getting in touch to ask and he's so worn down by that.