To have a grump about dp getting takeaway

[MoreTeaPenguin]

Last night I cooked dinner for dp and the kids (not for me because I was going out), fed the kids and left dp's on the side with a note with instructions how to heat it and a cheesy "I heart U" at the bottom of the note. DP ordered himself takeaway for a treat after a long day (with his own money) and put the dinner in the fridge. It hasn't been wasted - we're having it tonight for dinner. But I have the rage, and I'm not sure if it's reasonable or not! I think I'm annoyed because it feels like a rejection of the note. Writing it down I feel less and less reasonable! Maybe it's just because I'm generally angry because of something else and it's leaking out here! So, what would your reaction be? Thank you!

Sorry I think you are being unreasonable, but like you say your in a bad mood and it's leaking!

As long as the dinner wasn't wasted, I wouldn't be bothered.

Ha, you made me chuckle with the thought of scoffing greasy lamb chops on the sofa!

Sorry, I was a bit cryptic, didn't mean to be, the thing making me angry all the time is that my friend died. So completely not dp's fault, or anything like that!

Right, I shall stop unreasonably stropping then! Maybe book myself into boxercise or something for a better outlet for my anger. I'm not good with anger because I don't often get angry, so it's a bit weird and scary. Though I feel a lot better now I've had delicious dinner (though I do say so myself, I make lovely lovely dinner)!

I'm so sorry about your friend penguin
Boxercise sounds like a great idea

Sorry to hear about your friend

Getting your lovely dinner tonight is a good bonus!

I sympathise. I make DH lunches most days, all packed up in his lunchbox with a little note tucked in. I came home one day to find the lunch still in the fridge, and, for reasons relating to hormones, ended up in a crying heap on the kitchen floor. I think as women we tie a lot of emotion to food, the act of feeding is the act of expressing love. When it's rejected, it really hurts and makes us angry.

I don't think there's anything wrong with feeling the way you felt, just so long as you don't do anything stupid because of it :)