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AIBU?

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to think if people give to a collection...

19 replies

queenofthemountain · 20/08/2014 19:06

it should actually go to the stated recipient
...I was looking for something in our office today and so was looking in some drawers belonging to a lady who used to work in the office,I came across a card and collection about £100 for a colleague who was moving to a different branch ,but we still all see regularly.

When I showed it to the lady whose drawer it was (and who had organised the collection) she said it was too late and she will put the money into a current collection for somebody else whose wife has just had a baby.I personally put £10 into the collection and feel really sorry for the lady who it was intended for , and got nothing

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Teddybeau1988 · 20/08/2014 19:09

She shouldn't have been the organiser if she couldn't organise it.

Would it be her account the money goes into by any chance?

Frontier · 20/08/2014 19:10

No YANBU, that's terrible. Really shocking actually.

DontWorrryBaldrickHasACunningP · 20/08/2014 19:14

It should go to the person it was intended for. Make it known in the office what has been going on and make sure this woman is no longer in charge of any collections.

AlpacaYourThings · 20/08/2014 19:17

YANBU, it's ridiculous.

You should give the collection to the lady it was meant for.

Topaz25 · 20/08/2014 19:20

How is it "too late" if you're all still in touch with the person it was intended for? I'd insist on passing it on to her. How do you know it really will go in the next collection? How could someone forget they have £100 in their drawer? Sounds very suspicious to me. If she refuses to give the money to the person it was intended for I would inform management as she is essentially taking money from colleagues under false pretences.

SorryForTheTypos · 20/08/2014 19:34

No no no no!

Mention it loudly, in front of others.

KnackeredMuchly · 20/08/2014 19:47

Fraud or sheer stupidity. So lady who's having the baby gets £200??!

I bet she just kept it gor a while wondering if someone would notice, and if they didn't. ..

Leeds2 · 20/08/2014 19:48

I don't see why it can't go to the lady it was intended for, even if it is handed over late.

jenniuol · 20/08/2014 19:50

I am at this. I think it's awful. The poor lady who it was intended for got nothing but someone else might get double that. Very unfair. This kind of thing puts people off giving for work collections imho.

Spadequeen · 20/08/2014 19:52

I think everyone should know about this and I wouldn't be getting her to do any more 'collections'

Lariflete · 20/08/2014 20:27

Yes, definitely hand it over to the intended recipient. It will probably make their day when they do receive it. And never let the 'organiser' take charge of anything again!

ShadowStar · 20/08/2014 20:38

YANBU.

It should still go to the intended recipient, regardless of how "late" the collection is.

And agree that this lady shouldn't be allowed to organise any more collections.

KingJoffreysBloodshotEye · 20/08/2014 20:39

Fraud.

You don't 'forget' £100 sitting in a desk drawer.

You caught her out.

VanitasVanitatum · 20/08/2014 20:41

That's stealing, she has no right to do that at all. You need to set her straight.

mumtosome61 · 20/08/2014 20:46

I'd be furious - there are only ever a few people I'd want to give collection money for and if it went to someone else, or, dare I say it, to the collectors purse, I'd be livid.

I'd definitely say something; "Oh X, did our collection money ever go to Y? I thought she'd have sent a thank you note or dropped by to say thanks?" - if she lies about it, which she may, you know she's probably trying to pocket the dosh and say "Oh, that's funny; I found the card and the cash in your drawer whilst I was looking for a stapler yesterday"

Route 101 of investigation work; let the other person lie without knowing they are lying - it's much harder to reverse what has been said if it contradicts the evidence

mumtosome61 · 20/08/2014 20:48

Sorry, I realised I misread the OP.

I'd call her out on it anyway, in front of others. You don't forget £100 and I'm sure the people who put money with good grace into that collection for your former colleague would probably be miffed too that it's not been handed over.

simontowers2 · 20/08/2014 20:48

Id i form people above and also demand hour tenner back. Thief.

Dubjackeen · 20/08/2014 20:54

Something like that happened where I worked, a couple of years ago. I hadn't given to the collection because the person leaving was a friend and I had bought her a present, before ever a collection was started.
Her boss kicked up a stink about a collection being done, and stopped it. Maybe the money was returned to individuals, I don't know.

Staywithme · 20/08/2014 21:10

Con artist!
My husband has incurable cancer and when the November thing was on his workmates raised @£800 pounds for him to present to his favourite charity. When it was time to get the money from the SAFE it was missing and it has never been discovered who took it! So basically his good friends raised money for his chosen charity and a scumbag that has worked with my DH and knows he is terminaly has stolen it!

Whatever you do, don't let this go. You might find out other collections have not been handed over. This enrages me because people are handing over their hard earned cash in good faith and it's not going where intended. I don't understand how this wasn't discovered before. Do you not have a dinner or official handing over?

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