To feel guilty that i told DD I'd be back to pick her up from nursery, forgetting that I'm out tonight and won't see her at all

[PickledLily]

DD has not wanted to go to nursery for the past couple of weeks and has been very upset after drop off. She eventually settles down after half an hour. I've been giving her my scarf to 'look after' while she is there and it seems to help calm her. This morning i dropped her off and said I'd see her after nursery, completely forgetting i am out tonight so won't see her until tomorrow morning. I always put her to bed, this is the first time in months that DH will do it.

She's going to be really upset when she wonders why I'm not there, isn't she. Oh god, i feel awful.

Look you know she will be fine. You can't always be there can you. Is dh primed? Warned for tears?

Mine actually quite liked it when dad did the bed time routine mainly because it was rare( worked away) and he would be as soft as shit reading at least 10 books etc.

Trust me you are worrying far more than she will.

And enjoy your night out!

How old is she?

She's 2 and a half. I know she will be fine (she probably won't even care). I still feel awful.

Could you ring nursery just to get them to let her know it will be daddy picking her up? And then just say sorry in the morning. It's okay to make a mistake, and she will be fine, but just so she knows for future than you aren't making empty promises if you say it again.

Oh I'm sure she'll be fine then as she's still young enough to distract etc

It's not like she'll look you in the eye and say, "Now Mummy, you made a firm promise!"

I would just enjoy your night if I were you

It's the 'being abandoned at nursery' aspect that i feel bad about. She's been saying 'I lost my mummy' when she talks about nursery.

at worral.

Yes, yes, i know you are all right. I'll give nursery a call.

Honestly I bet the moment you are out of the door more or less she's fine.

I bet too the phrase i lost my mummy gets her loads of hugs from the nursery assistants too!

It can be just the moment of parting is hard but the giving her your scarf is a great idea. My ds2 had mine as he was the same.

Pssst he's now 6 foot 2 and 23 but still cuddly.

Aw you poor thing. We all make mistakes.

I bet you're feeling worse than she will.

I understand completely, though.

Get Daddy to tell her it's a special treat him picking her up & give her a McDonald's treat for dinner, watch copious tv and have snuggles as Mummy's out.

Can you do a quick chat on FaceTime or Skype?

Don't worry if you can't. She will be fine. The scarf idea is lovely and you sound like a great mummy.

I know I'm being soft, she will survive. And you are spot on, she will be watching loads of TV, getting doted on and singing 'Let it go' at the top of her voice.

Thank you for being so gentle withe me!

Aww bless her she WILl be fine though get dad to big up him picking her up andcshe wont mind.