to think he needs to be more proactive.

[4boys78]

So I popped out to the gym early yesterday evening.Ds was left with our 4 dc including a toddler. Toddler has a habit of opening the fridge. (we brough a lock but it was hard to fit). Therefore toddler needs to be watched. I came home to see dh and dt watching tv with toddler playing with cars. All fine
10 minutes later I went into kitchen to find fridge door wide open. I pointed this out casually and immediately dh started blaming dts and said it must have been open for half an hour.
Aibu to think he is responsible not dts who are 10.

Yabvu, can a 10yr old not know how to close a fridge door?

It was the toddler who opened it. Tthink he just expected twins to watch him.

Surely if in a household the fridge door is left open by a toddler who doesn't know it shouldn't be everyone else in the family should shut it if they see it open. How old the toddler. Surprised he can get the door open if young toddler.

Twins say they didn't know it was open. Obviously neither did dh as I suspect he didn't move from his chair in the time I was out.
Maybe I am too much of a helicopter parent but a 2 year old needs watching.

Put a baby gate on the kitchen door?

YANBU - you should be able to go out and not come home to that. When I have a two year old in the house I don't expect to be able to sit in the same room without moving for over an hour (which I assume is how long you were gone for).

YANBU. My dh is the same; he'll just sit there and expect everyone else to pick up the slack.

I'd be annoyed at all of them TBH!

My DH id a lovely man, but time management/planning/logisitcs are not his strong points. He does loads about the house but it is always "I'll do the tea. What shall I make?". It drives me potty that he somehow can't think about what needs doing but will happily do it if I explain to him what needs doing. Having said that, I suppose we all have our foibles and my inability to notice dust or move furniture when hoovering might be equally annoying I suppose.

Sorry, hijacking there, but no YANBU to be annoyed, but YABU to restrict your annoyance to your husband!

Stairgate is a good idea. May try that. Imy initial a noyance was at them all. However, I was extra cross with dh because immediately he tried to blame twins. But he is the parent supposedly on duty.