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To want to know why Mumsnetters are so against the christmas shoeboxes?

110 replies

MrsWinnibago · 19/08/2014 09:22

As far as I can tell, it's due to the religious nature of Operation Christmas Child and Samaritan's Purse....from previous threads I've seen that people resent the fact that the volunteers pray with the kids and include religious leaflets in the boxes.

But is this really enough reason to not send a box? I can't help but think, if my kids were in a war torn country and had nothing...no toys or anything...they'd rather hear a few prayers and get their box than NOT hear a few prayers and get nothing.

Or am I missing something?

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CoolCat2014 · 19/08/2014 09:24

I'm not against it, I think it's a fantastic idea!

FreeSpirit89 · 19/08/2014 09:24

It's more the pushing there religion on people I think, good people help people because they can not for the chance to convert them x

LadyLuck10 · 19/08/2014 09:24

I think it's a great idea too.

NynaevesSister · 19/08/2014 09:25

That is the aspect that gets up my nose. Why should they have to hear a few prayers just to get toys? In what way is it ok to say to people you are in bad circumstances so you should just suck it up?

RustyBear · 19/08/2014 09:27

There are charities that do the shoebox thing without the prayers - one of our governors found a local one and our school used that.

Shakirasma · 19/08/2014 09:27

It because the charities primary aim is not about gifting toys to these children, it's about religios conversion using these boxes as a tool to gain contact and trust.

SuffolkNWhat · 19/08/2014 09:27

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QOD · 19/08/2014 09:27

Trying to bribe non Christians into Christianity is poop

I don't care if they're Muslim, Hindu whatever, if they have nothing then a gift is good

However, perhaps a bit different with the Xmas ones, being as it's A Christian holiday and all Grin

MrsWinnibago · 19/08/2014 09:27

Nynae well until some NON religious people are willing to send and organise boxes, I can't really complain about those who ARE giving their time to ensure that the children get some gifts.

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MrsWinnibago · 19/08/2014 09:29

Suffolk I didn't know about the weeks of classes. Is that definite? I think Christmas is not important...it's the gifts of toys and practical things I like the idea of sending.

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MrsWinnibago · 19/08/2014 09:30

I want to send loads.....I read that they're always short of boys boxs aged 10-14...can anyone share details of any other charities that do this?

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SuffolkNWhat · 19/08/2014 09:31

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MrsWinnibago · 19/08/2014 09:32

Rotary schemes? Backpacks? Should I google?

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SuffolkNWhat · 19/08/2014 09:33

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TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 19/08/2014 09:33

Aside from religion, are lots of very good reasons why shoeboxes are not a good way to help poor children in other countries. These have all been extensively discussed on the many threads on this topic.

If you want to help alleviate poverty donate money (or charity shop items) to the relevant charities. There are lots of non-religious ones too.

HoldenMcGroin · 19/08/2014 09:36

Yes what they all said

Conditional gifts, hell no

WhereforeArtThou · 19/08/2014 09:40

Great link Suffolk

I don't do the shoeboxes either.

wigglesrock · 19/08/2014 09:42

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SaucyJack · 19/08/2014 09:44

I'm not against them, tho I never get round to actually doing one.

I was on a different forum ages ago when this topic came up, and from the data I could find at the time they are sending them to countries that are already overwhelmingly practicing Christian/catholic anyway so I don't believe the hype about it being done for the purposes of religious conversion.

MrsWinnibago · 19/08/2014 09:46

Saucy yes...I'd like some definite "proof" of the hellfire stuff really.

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ILovePud · 19/08/2014 09:46

I didn't know any of this, I just hadn't given it any thought, very grateful to have the extra information and the link, last year I didn't support the school's drive but gave a donation to Oxfam instead, but this was because I thought it'd be a more efficient way of giving. I did feel a bit mean afterwards because the children had felt a bit left our when others had taken stuff in. This year I might see if I can highlight it to the school or organise an alternative for parents and kids who don't want to be a part of this.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 19/08/2014 09:47

As others said, there are plenty of alternatives.

I think there's something dehumanizing about treating children in poverty as if they don't deserve the same religious freedoms everyone should get. There is a long history to religious imperialism and it's horrible. That's somebody else's culture and religion - it's theirs. Not ours to do away with.

Chillycamper · 19/08/2014 09:47

Ok here goes. This is my opinion! These are my concerns:

Using loads of fuel and other resources to drive mainly plastic tat made in sweatshops by the world's poorest including children (and imported by the container load- more pollution) to war torn/poverty blighted largely non-Christian areas of the world to leave rubbish in places without the infrastructure to deal with it plus a religious 'message'.
I just can't imagine religious groups going into UK schools and giving out religious books with Starburst or Yugio cards and that being acceptable.

Personally I'd rather donate to a charity working locally supporting water, education or buy fairtrade products supporting better working conditions. Oxfam have a nice scheme where you can make a donation towards play equipment for schools etc, Save the Children. Lots of other options better in my opinion than the polluting boxes of guilt relieving tat while we enjoy our Christmas of excess...

The vicar of Putney with some religious objections:

www.theguardian.com/world/2003/nov/10/religion.society

Some alternatives here:

humanism.org.uk/humanism/humanism-today/humanists-doing/good-causes-and-charities/samaritans-purse/

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gordyslovesheep · 19/08/2014 09:48

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StrumpersPlunkett · 19/08/2014 09:51

For me it was a thread a few years ago where a MN'er's child at a nursery was given a box. iirc all the children in the nursery got one and yet they lived in a well to do part of town (I THINK it was in Bosnia or somewhere like that)