To leave 12 year old in charge of almost 4 year old for 20 mins max?

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I leave my dd12 alone for a couple of hours or with dd10- a couple of times when dd4 is asleep I ve left her to pick dh up - she s in bed but awake , would I be ok to leave her to collect dh?

Any one ??

I would say it's ok.

I think it's fine.

i've done similar

Thank you !! Dh finishes work soon and it's pouring so I don't want to get her out of bed - hoped she d be asleep - silly me!

At 13 I was looking after a 3, 4 and 8 year old until the early hours of the morning. 20 minutes will be fine.

You know your dd. Only you know how sensible she is and capable if something out of the ordinary happens. Most are fine with some responsibility at 12?

Yes, I would, with my 12 yr old, but it does depend a bit on the 12 yr old. Sounds as if yours is already comfortable with being left, and the responsibility has been built up though, so, I'd say yes.

Sounds fair enough.

Yes she s really good with her sisters and feels confident to do it. She pops thru to her if she hears her shouting before us.

Sounds fine. You know if you can trust her. Do it if you're happy.

Absolutely fine I think. I definitely would have done when my dd was 12.

DD2 I would without a quarm. DD1 isn't keen on small DCs, but even she'd probably of managed 20 minutes.

Thank you all - everything is scary the first time doing it I suppose. Just hope he finishes

On time !!

I think as long as she is happy with it, and you trust her, its no problem.

No problem at all.

Yeah fine. My mum used to leave my middle brother aged 13 with my youngest brother aged 6 months for far longer than that. I was 15 at the time but refused to babysit and would leave the house (my mum knew I was not at home helping).

All was fine and she d fell asleep within minutes- typical