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UK and America are two countries separated by a common language, UK and US Q&A

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Pipbin · 18/08/2014 20:23

Continuation of the previous thread where posters from the UK ask questions like 'what the hell is going on with the gaps in US toilet doors'; and posters fro the US ask things like 'what is with wearing stripes'

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a2149133-to-think-there-is-something-wrong-with-Americans?msgid=48969042#48969042

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AlpacaMyBags · 23/08/2014 01:07

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CheerfulYank · 23/08/2014 02:39

Cheese I dunno but I'm on the road right now and will be in Chicago in about seven hours...and then again on Tuesday. :) Let me know if you want me to get them or something. Not sure if that's possible, but I'll help if I can.

itsonlysubterfuge · 23/08/2014 09:06

Pipbin I was referring to these Refreshers which I have only seen in the UK.

x2boys When I was admitted to the hospital after an overdose, I was allowed to leave the next day, when I woke up. It was not compulsory that I stay in hospital.

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore · 23/08/2014 09:17

I've often wondered if the schools start slightly later in the UK because so many use public transport or walk to get there. An 8am start would be a nightmare for many to get transport if they already have to leave quite early. Whereas in the states, many children go on school buses, so it's not as much of an issue.

x2boys · 23/08/2014 09:35

Hi subterfuge thanks for replying lots of people who are Admi tted to mental health units in the UK are admitted voluntarily and are allowed to discharge themselves if they so wish however there is a mental health act which is mental health law ( Scotland has there own act ) which allows people who are refusing admission and are deemed a danger to themselves or others to be compulsorily detained ( usually by two doctors and a social worker but this can vary) there are many different sections to the act and depending on which section is used depends on how long somebody can be detained I was just wondering if there was anything comparable in the states ? And also as most people have to pay for there health care through insurance if there was something comparable how that would work sorry for the long winded reply

Pipbin · 23/08/2014 12:04

To me these are refreshers.

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Pipbin · 23/08/2014 12:07

Am I the only one who was a little shocked earlier at someone saying that you pay for your birth in instalments throughout your pregnancy?
What happens if there is a problem and you suddenly need emergency treatment or the baby comes early? If you suddenly give birth in the car on the way to the hospital then do you get a refund? What if you are a young girl who has hidden her pregnancy?

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lettertoherms · 23/08/2014 12:38

Paying through payments is just one way. If there's an emergency, the bill simply goes up. You don't need to be paid up before you give birth or anything, it's just a way to make paying easier, and payments could continue after baby is born.

If you'd hidden your pregnancy or otherwise rocked up the hospital to give birth without warning, you'd be cared for, and either insurance or you would be billed after. If you're footing the bill, you could then pay in installments you could afford, or work something out. Lots of emergency medical bills get reduced/written off.

Also, some women give birth in birth centers which might be cheaper than a hospital birth if you don't have insurance, and some give birth at home with private midwives. That's a whole other thread, since midwifery isn't an area of study the same way it is in the US - babies are delivered by specialized doctors - and I don't believe there's a government standard for midwives, you have to trust their qualifications if you're hiring one (I think there's some sort of registry/qualifying board but I think it's still private organization).

In my state, you can be put on a 72 hour hold in a mental health ward if you're deemed at risk, like a suicide attempt. I think it gets more complicated after that.

Moanranger · 23/08/2014 16:44

Love this thread! Am a Yank, but I have lived in UK 30 years. What I like about UK- the landscape, cream teas, sense of humour, conversations generally & Brits know how to party ( maybe way too much!) Also they do occasions well, I am thinking Wimbledon tennis, The Olympics, etcetera.
What I miss about U S - showers, Mexican food (I'm from Calif.), things flavoured with cinnamon.
I do not miss bread as it is minging!
What do others like/miss?
Re the house purchase difference, it is eye-poppingly complicated in UK -lawyers are too involved here, which is why. Lawyers little involved in US.

redshifter · 23/08/2014 17:17

I was just wondering about the about gay marriage. If a gay couple are married in one state (or UK) is that marriage fully recognised in a state that hasn't legalised it? (It must be surely. Is this a stupid question.) Can a gay couple pop over the state line, get married and have the same legal rights in their home state as any other married couple?
Do employers etc. Have to recognise the marriage for pensions, employees health Insurance, next of kin etc?

seagull70 · 23/08/2014 18:45

What do you guys from the US think of the European penchant for Black Pudding?

It's bloody lovely but you have to try not dwell on the ingredients (pigs blood, barley and spices mainly)

SconeRhymesWithGone · 23/08/2014 19:10

redshifter It is not a stupid question at all; it's very complicated. States that do not allow same sex marriage generally will not recognize same sex marriages from other states. The federal government does, but the application can still vary depending on the laws of individual states. Many cases are working their way through the courts; eventually the Supreme Court will have to settle some of the issues. What employers have to recognize is also complicated depending on what state they are in.

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore · 23/08/2014 19:22

seagull I actually liked it when I first tried it, but stbx used to have it a lot and I kind of went off it for awhile. I have had it recently as part of a breakfast and enjoyed it. I generally don't think about the ingredients. If I did, I wouldn't eat half the stuff we eat anyway, right? Grin

FloatIsRechargedNow · 23/08/2014 21:44

Yep - proper Mexican food and all night diners where you can get your eggs over easy and hash browns, not those little triangle things sold here but grated potatoes or a special 'house mix'. Or thick pancakes and maple syrup with a side of bacon (streaky/crispy) if you fancy it at 3am and a Bloody Mary at 6. Ex-Calif here too like MoanR.

Thankfully showers have caught on here now.

x2boys · 23/08/2014 22:29

I love all of this but seriously pancakes and maple syrup with bacon? Love the idea on there own but together!!? Or is this like peanutbutter and jelly/jam sounds yucky an d actually OK when you try it?

SconeRhymesWithGone · 23/08/2014 22:49

Pancakes with syrup and bacon is wonderful.

Tomorrow is National Waffle Day in the US; I'm celebrating with another American delicacy, waffles with syrup and fried chicken. Smile

x2boys · 23/08/2014 22:52

Well if you say so scone actually my home town invented black pudding so I,m in no position to criticise/any one am I !!

Moanranger · 23/08/2014 23:15

Oh, I also miss reasonably priced seafood restaurants. UK only has fish & chips, no red lobster. My all time favourite sea food restaurant is the Crab Cooker in Newport Beach.

SconeRhymesWithGone · 24/08/2014 00:19

I don't know about the rest of the UK, but there are some good seafood restaurants in Scotland; not particularly cheap though.

SoonToBeSix · 24/08/2014 01:51

Bogey you can't leave school at 16 and get a job, it has to be education or training.

CheerfulYank · 24/08/2014 02:44

What's considered a reasonable distance to drive in the UK?

I'm on the road right now on a 12 hour drive (one way) to hang out with some relatives for a few days. People I know in the UK have expressed amazement at doing this drive with 2 DC.

Also whenever someone asks what town I live in, I tell them it's "near X", a bigger city about 45 minutes away. Is that considered a far distance to you?

CheerfulYank · 24/08/2014 02:45

Although it's taking much, much longer than 12 hours due to a trip to the ER with DD, and road construction, and...

seagull70 · 24/08/2014 08:07

Hope your DD is ok Cheerful Yank. Yes, that would generally be seen as a very long distance to drive here in the UK.

We regularly drove those distances when we visited the West Coast of America though and although we were initially apprehensive about it (5 teens in car), it turned out just fine.

I think that generally speaking, the driving is a somehow easier in the States. Long open roads and more comfortable cars?

Probably for us though it was the 'newness' of our surroundings?

You couldn't drive for much longer than 12 hours in the UK - at least not if you continued in a straight line because you'd end up driving into the sea Grin