To find stealth boast fb posts about DC really irritating?

[bronya]

All DC develop at different rates - for the people on my fb feed, my DC does some things their same aged DC do not, and theirs do things my DC does not. Does it really matter? Are these going to be the 'my DC is on x reading level - so proud' people when the children go to school? Why do people need to boast about their DC anyway?

I love seeing friends' updates about what they and their children are up to, including achievements they're proud of. Why not? I'm happy for them. I like seeing their holiday pics, too - brightens up a grey day.

I rarely post anything about my (now grown-up) children, though, because having read all the griping on here about boasting/stealth boasting etc I don't want to piss people off.

I regret this, because there are some things I would have liked to share but have been too much of a pusillanimous people-pleaser to do it. I am trying to change! If people don't like it, they can always hide my (very occasional) updates.

I still don't understand why it's boasting I wouldn't see it as them boasting and my child can't even recognise all his letters age 8 (SN)

I love reading about other children's progress. Be it a 2 year old who can read or a 7 year old who has just learnt Makaton.

I don't judge my child alongside other children, I just base his progress on what he himself can achieve.

Just because I'm proud of DS for being able to make a sentence now, to doesn't mean that I think his friends with severe autism that can't speak are shit. I'm just a proud of my child for his personal progress.

CabbagePatch. I think that has already happened on my FB page. I always loved sharing my news and reading about what my friends and family have been up to. Now all I get is game invitations and people moaning about how they cant wait for school to start back! Everyone is afraid to post about their kids or holiday in case they are seen as boasting! I always thought kids and holidays were the main topics on everyone's lips. Not any more.........It seems people get unfriended and blocked these for if they dare share with "friends" that their 2 year old managed to put his shoes on all by himself....and as for a 9 year old getting a good school report - Oh dear!

I think it's great when friends with children the same age as ds post achievements their children have made, I haven't read any books about when toddlers are supposed to reach different milestones so when a friend posts a status saying her dd can blow bubbles I think oh maybe I should try that with ds!

I also sometimes realise that my ds is doing things early, I put a video of him jumping ( and laughing hysterically) when he was about 14 months old, I had no idea he was early in learning to jump I just thought his joy was cute.

It never ends, if that's any help. Friend of mine just did a brag post about her university-age son.

Meh...

If it looks stealth perhaps it's not a boast at all. FB boasts are usually straight boasts from what I've seen.

If they're good at dancing, say, chances are they love dancing and do lots of it. If you post on fb about your kids at all it's likely to be about the things they do lots of, and consequently are good at.

I did find it a bit hard when everyone was posting parents evening/school report posts at once, just because DS's weren't so brilliant (or I'm a cynic better at reading between the lines!). That's my problem not theirs though.

Not read the responses but will in a mo. I don't post about my kids successes on FB but I'm happy to humbly share stuff (successes and failures) with my closest friends/relatives in person. I am very pleased when I hear about my nephews/godchildren/close friends children doing well on FB or in person. I think it's really nice that parents are proud of their kids (talking as someone who's own parents weren't proud)

why is it stealth boasting to be proud of your kids.

The real problem is not what is posted, but who is in the friends list.

If you only have as friends people who are truly friends then they will love your updates.

If you use FB as a contacts book and have EVERYONE you have ever met on there - not so much!