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Argh teenage boys

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clickers123 · 18/08/2014 04:41

I asked my two teenage boys to walk the dogs last night. I got the usual gobby replies. Unfortunately they picked a bad day to do this as I have major peri menopausal pms related hormones.

I had a major meltdown and shouted a variety of swear words at them along with a few comments about their general lazyarsed behaviour. My eldest son aged 16 is now guilting me out about swearing. I feel kind awful about it but I'm tempted to remind him of his own potty mouth whilst on Facebook etc.

Arggghhh... Serious guilt.

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indigo18 · 18/08/2014 22:59

LouisSuarezTeeth It absolutely is that simple. I had a teenage son, I have taught hundreds of teenage boys. I do not tolerate 'gtobby replies' being the norm. They just don't get away with it. Ever. And especially not in my home.

Thebodyloveschocolateandwine · 18/08/2014 23:05

Some gobby replies can be funny. Depends upon the context and the situation.

Sense of humour needed on both sides.

MostWicked · 18/08/2014 23:06

I don't swear at my kids
They don't swear at me.

TooOldForGlitter · 18/08/2014 23:14

Oh I'm worse, they aren't even my children, I'm not even married to their dad, so I can't say DSSs but must say children-of-my-partner-of-ten-years. Oh the horror! But I forced the 18 and 17 yos to walk the dog this morning. Awful I am, just awful.

TooOldForGlitter · 18/08/2014 23:15

Oh and swearing was involved.

Topseyt · 18/08/2014 23:20

Chocolate and wine were invented for parents to enable them to cope with stroppy teenagers, did you not know?! Grin

I have a 15 year old daughter and a 12 year old one. That means I have another few years of adolescent girls ahead of me yet.

When I was having my children I never gave any thought to the fact that their teenage years would coincide with me being peri-menopausal, so I do know what you mean by that. It isn't the best combination really. When I am all hormonal I feel as if I am almost reverting to being a teen myself again and it can cause clashes.

Thebodyloveschocolateandwine · 18/08/2014 23:25

Indeed topseyt the best tonic. Grin

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clickers123 · 19/08/2014 00:09

I like the wine idea. Actually my DH managed to calm me down by giving me an unexpected smooch once I'd finished part of my rant. It was rather nice!

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DownByTheRiverside · 19/08/2014 08:01

'I don't swear at my kids
They don't swear at me.'

I could say the same. Doesn't stop them being an unbelievable PITA at times. It's the sheer pointlessness of some of the squabbles that astounds me, I sometimes get a fit of the giggles and that outrages whichever one is being idiotic and off they flounce.

ArmyDad · 19/08/2014 08:12

The only comfort that I take is that my older siblings have been through this phase and their teenaged nightmares have become normal people at the other end.

TantrumsAndBalloons · 19/08/2014 09:06

My teenagers do not swear at me.

However they do this..

Ds1 can you walk the dog please?
Ok
(5 minutes later)
Ds1? The dog?
I know I heard you. I'm going
(5 minutes later) (the dog is now running round in circles. Ds1 is oblivious and busy texting)
Ds1. Go and walk the dog. Now
Ookkkaayy mum I heard you. I'm going. Why are you shouting at me?
(Ds1 goes upstairs. Apparently to put on shoes. 10 minutes passes)
For fucks sake ds1 will you just go and walk the sodding dog.
Do you know what mum you need to chill out. Why are you getting so worked up, I'm going
(Puts on dogs lead. Phone beeps. He sits down again to read a text)
(I grab the phone, put it in my pocket and shout. Dog. Now)
Ds1 ambles out of the door.

I could have walked the fucking dog, came home and had a cup of coffee in the time it took him to get out of the door

DownByTheRiverside · 19/08/2014 09:12
Grin DS isn't the problem in that respect, he's good at complying with requests fairly quickly. DD however...
OwlCapone · 19/08/2014 09:31

Me: Can you do X please?
Them: "just a second"
"in a minute"
"I'm just finishing this"
"this match is only 7 more minutes"

Me: Bacon sanrnies are ready!
Them: Here!

aaagh!

OwlCapone · 19/08/2014 09:33

My teens don't swear at me as a rule. DS1 made this mistake at the start of the summer holidays and I banned him from the XBox for 2 weeks.
Kind mother that I am, I relented and let him earn it back by, for example, raking the lawn after it had been mowed (the lawn had been knee height before it was mown so this was no small job).

Each day for a fortnight he had to to chores.
Chores I had been prepared to pay him pocket money for [cackle]

DownByTheRiverside · 19/08/2014 09:36

My grandad used to say children, dogs and gardens are all the better for a bit of pruning and a few ground rules. Probably where the phrase 'nipping it in the bud' origibnated too.

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clickers123 · 19/08/2014 09:59

I always get their immediate attention if I turn off the wifi !!! Maybe I should do that more often!

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clickers123 · 19/08/2014 10:03

Another of my pet peeves is when we arrange to go out for dinner as a family. I can give them 6 hours notice and the exact time, with multiple reminders, and let when we are due to set off they say 'what!? We are going now?!!!!' (Like I'm being unreasonable.
Compare that to my Dd aged 11 who is extremely punctual and organised. but has a filthy temper

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