DH way out of line

[Getdownoffthattable]

When I said 'I don't think I need to check on the children tonight as they're nice and settled' DH said 'well if DS was dead it would be a whole lot quieter' then had a go at me for being over sensitive when I got upset. DS is 18 months. DH then turned the lights on when I was fast asleep and woke me up knowing full well I'm exhausted to try and get my forgiveness. Now he's saying it's my fault for dragging if out by not forgiving him.

Would I be unreasonable to leave? This is the latest in a long line of BS from him.

So upset.

Thanks myroom. That's really helpful.

I think I'm prob trying to find forgiveness as I wish my own parents had tried harder to make it work.

Going to get some help next week when thankfully he's away again. You MN types are legends x

Thanks Chocca. Nice to know I'm not being over sensitive!

Yes, Getdown, of course you are. You are a lovely, kind thoughtful woman who wants to do the best for her OH and her family. Sadly, it isn't reciprocated is it?

You need to place your needs/wants/desires first. This is your life.

I dont meant to be blunt or harsh but a member of my family was found dead a few days ago. This is why I said your future is not guaranteed. :(

I think things would be clearer for you if you talked to the CAB etc.

:) I gave all my life to my EX and it was hard to get away from him, but I did and I am much happier, life is so peaceful and I am free to do as I wish :) and it was a lot easier than I expected. :)

lol a few random ':)' there! Well maybe that is a good omen!

Sorry about your family member myroom
Yes what I crave most of all is peace and freedom to be myself without tiptoeing around worrying about upsetting him all the time.

Don't go leaving yet. Speak to solicitor and find out if you'd be able to keep the house. Less disruptive for the kids.

Thanks youthecat. Will have to make a plan before leaving. Would prob have to sell house and move nearer my family who are 150 miles away anyway