To ask everyone who is TTCing or supporting someone TTCing to read this?

[Pipbin]

www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-28785054

And if you have the time listen to the radio program. It explains what it is like so well. I imagine it must be hard to understand if you've not been there.
It might be helpful if you have a friend going through IVF or TTCing.

Pipbin Bless you for posting this, I had not spotted it in Radio Times and I am glad I listened to it.

My niece, forty next birthday, has never really wanted anything out of life except to be a mother, and it has not happened in spite of treatment including IVF. Three years ago her brother who lives nearby (and they are close) had a son; she went through a short spell when she could not bear to see him but is now a devoted aunt to him - but has never given up hope.

I think I now have just a small inkling of what it has all meant and still means to her.

I'm going to look at this thanks, 7 years TTC and 3 IVFS (1 with donor eggs) and still no luck

Thanks for posting

I'm just starting fertility investigations so will have a look. It's very tough and I can't imagine how much harder it's going to get. You must be very brave Lauren83, I hope you get your wish.

I posted it as I felt it captured the feelings so well and spoke about them so clearly.
I hope it helps do people to understand and other to not feel so alone.

Thank you for posting. It explains so well what it is like.

Unfortunately for me it is never going to happen and I have kind of made peace with that.

It is so difficult when you are going through it and so difficult to discuss with others.

I think the big problem is that so many of us keep it secret, especially at work. I have been very open about it. Sitting talking with work colleagues a while ago it turned out that 5 of us were all TTCing, yet we were all ashamed to talk about it.

Bumping this. A huge part of the stress that infertility and ivf brings is caused by other people just not getting it. Anything that can help ease that is a good thing imo. It's taken 7 years, 5 cycles of icsi/ivf and three miscarriages to get to the point where a very small handful of people around me understand how difficult it is. No one can truly get it without experiencing it first hand but everyone is capable of empathy and a little but if that can go a long, long way towards helping someone who is struggling to conceive.

We haven't yet managed to have success btw but we live in hope.

to everyone who knows how it feels. Wouldn't wish it on anyone.

And please try to listen to the radio program (link at the end of the article) it says it all so beautifully.

Really interesting article, thank you Pipbin. I've had 3 MCs in as many years. I don't think of myself as childless, I am a mother, my children just never survived. But I totally get the point of it.

I feel the same Fack although I haven't ever even got as far as getting pregnant. I have pictures of the embryos that were transfered, that is the closest I have got to being a mother.

Osirus

Thankyou! I hope you have a smoother journey