To ask my dd (5) whether she wants to give up her window seat on the train

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Scenario:
Long train journey
Booked three seats for me and two dd's (5yo and 3yo)
Seats were around a table - two windows and one aisle
Kids had window seats, for looking out of window purposes (though tbh dd1 mostly read)

So, a woman gets on and her reserved seat is the fourth one. There are other seats free (reserved, but from stations an hour previous, so obviously not going to be used). These seats also have plugs, but smaller tables (airline style).

She asked me if she could have dd1's window seat, so she could reach the plug to charge her phone. I gave dd1 the choice of moving or of having the phone cable stretched across in front of her. She chose to stay where she was.

WIBU?

I dont think thats unreasonable at all.

Not at all, you were sat in your booked seats. Other woman is stupid

Assuming you paid for your children's seats even though under 5's are free, then your daughter has the right to sit in the seat she was assigned.

YANBU my fidgety climb everything DD1 was far less of a pain to everyone with the window to look out of.

Oh, I paid for both the kids' seats. No way am I having them on my lap for more than three hours.

No you was not being unreasonable, I would of done the same even to my 3year old whom I book and reserve a seat for.

NBU at all. Arsey woman was making a pathetic point I think that she had more right to a window than dd.

Phew! She gave me such a look I wondered if I was in the wrong. She was nice about dd1 needing to get past her to go to the loo several times, though, so maybe she was just worried they would be awful. They were actually really pretty good - not too noisy or wriggly.

Nbu at all. I do the same pay and book seats for the madthings.

When booking seats I think one of the options is a window seat/ table seat etc.

5madthings It is an option, and I chose it. Plenty of room for sticker books, snacks etc on the table and I'm within grabbing distance and sight of both of them at all times.

She asked, and you said no. Noone's being unreasonable there.

She then was nice for the remainder of the journey.

All seems fine to me. What was the response you were expecting?

partial I was vaguely wondering if the expectation that children give up their seats (about which there is a current thread) applied here. I didn't think it did, but wondered if I WBU. So I posted.

None story. She asked due to needing the plug. You said no again due to the seat being booked by you (ticket might not be valid if not sat in). End of story. Both been reasonable. Have a lovely journey.

YANBU and I think you know it. She as just on the reasonable side by asking and stayed there by then being nice in her approach.

No I think she shoukd remain in the seat if you wants.
Furthermore, unless the lead was long enough not to present a problem, I think the nuusance of having a lead stretched across is quite a big ask for anything other than a short while.

Totally not U!

Can't believe the woman thought you were being U

I wouldn't have asked your DD to move, but I would very likely have asked if I could plug something in if you weren't using the charger - why not? Or did her phone lead not stretch so far?

I think she might not have realized the other seats weren't going to be taken.

But of course, it wasn't unreasonable to say your DD wanted to stay where she was sitting.

You were fine, think woman Also reasonable to ask if she cld use plug.