My sister and I normally get on well - we never had an argument before now. We each have three kids.
We have different styles of parenting - she would be more hands on and constantly watching what the kids are doing while I take a more laid back approach and think its fine for kids to have little squabbles. There have been a few little incidents over the past year - all minor. For example, at a family function recently all the kids were playing outside and my ds (3)pushed her ds (2) after her ds tried to take toy from my ds. I gave out to my child and made him apologise. Kept a closer eye on them after that but in my eyes this would be no big deal and normal toddler behaviour.
At another get together I overheard her say that my child was always poorly behaved and causing trouble. I didn't say anything at the time but thought this was very unfair and untrue. I felt I had to bring this up at a later time because I disagreed with the comment so much. She blew up and said that I was a very lax parent who just let my children go around causing havoc - I completely disagree. She was quiet vicious and said some other nasty things about me too.
I've been upset about it since and we haven't talked now in over two weeks when we usually be in contact every few days. I can't forget the things she said and don't know how I can ever spend time in her company with the kids again. My dh says to just carry on as normal and to forget about it but I can't - how can I just sit there over a cup of tea knowing that she thinks I'm not a good parent and that my child is a bit wild? Just to be clear anyone I have talked about in the real world about this has been amazed as my ds is quiet and generally very well behaved.