to think he should parent his own child?!

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can the parents who have a vested intrest in there kids please enlighten me ,,,my ikkle girl was naughty yesterday ,,so me bein a parent told her off ,,then i said im goin to tell ya mum,,which i wasnt ,it was for the shock value ,,anyway my ikkle girl told me your not tellin anyone ..so i thought im nothaving my daughter tellin me whats what ,,so i rang her mum explained the situation ,,and the response i got was mind blowing ..she said you deal with it ,,im on a break ,,excuse me on a break ..i never knew there was a national having a break from bein aparent day ,,,,for me there is no break from ya responsibilities on telling ya child right from wrong ,,so my question is was i wrong for telllng her mum that she was naughty and that she then tried to tell me whats what ,,,,,all i got was abuse off her mum please enlighten me have i done wrong

AIBU to think his ex was 100% right? The father that put this on FB is a relative and I wont be back to comment as I NC for this, I am just interested in hearing opinions. Btw, this is not a hidden profile.

My ex does this. Either phones me and expects me to sort it over the phone, or spends the entire handover moaning about their behaviour. Which is exemplary 99% of the time at home.

It hasn't occurred to him that they play up at his for a reason!

In the op the ex is nbu

I can see both sides here actually. However it sounds like they do not have a very good " co parenting " set up . Perhaps he should have told the x that their darling had told him that he wouldn't dare to phone her and laughed a bit to work out that this was a shared joke,.

I don't care for the " i will tell your other parent" set up but I know many uses it. & actually in this case if child said " you wont do that " then i think he did the right thing in following through with his threat. However would have been ideal if he had not said it in the first place.

'Yes, you are completely right - there is no break from being a parent so try being one and take responsibility for your child by disciplining them all on your own when you have them. HTH.'

ask him if he's happy to receive phone calls from his ex - at any hour - if there is a problem with their child...I bet he wouldn't be happy being woken at 4am to be told their 'ikkle' girl had been sick and needed to hear her dad's voice for comfort...

we need to know if his "ikkle" girl is also his pwincess before we can decide...

So, did anyone enlighten him?

'i'm going to tell your mum'
is not parenting, fgs. It's coping out.

I'm going to tell your mum is parenting as a toddler. He really needs to accept that his ex isn't his mummy, too.

He should learn to parent. He's not just there for the good times, he has to learn to cope with all of his DD, good and bad. Is he going to end up telling her that he won't see her unless she behaves?? Stupid.

For one parent to use the other parent as a threat is shitty parenting. It’s not just weak parenting, and it’s not just ineffective parenting, it’s also setting the other parent up as the child’s enemy. It’s telling the child they’re someone the child should be scared of and needs to hide things from. And that’s a really shitty thing to do. Doubly so if the parents are separated. I am not saying it’s wrong to tell the other parent, or that it’s wrong to ask the other parent for help. But to use the other parent as a threat – no!

FFS, he needs to learn to parent his own child on his own. Pathetic.

What a twat!

I bet when they were together he 'babysat' if he ever looked after his ikkle girl alone.

There's things which should never be used as discipline and this is one of them. The other is contact. "If you do XYZ I'm not going to see you".

I bet he's a disney dad. Takes her out and spoils her, but has no idea what it's like to be a real parent.

Total cop out - total dickhead.

Don't think it's anything to do with wanting advice or not knowing how to cope, just a thinly disguised attempt to make out his ex is a rubbish mum for not 'caring' about disciplining her DD and wanting a break.

FFS typical passive aggressive facebook bullshit. Fecking HATE it.

I think saying 'I'm going to tell your mum' is a really crap way of disciplining. It was initially an empty threat too which is crap discipline also. He should have sorted it out himself with getting the girl to empathise or time out or missing screen time. Poor dos using her mother as a threat. It's also disempowering for the dad and putting the problem on the mums shoulders at an inappropriate time.

I do tell my husband about my kids behaviour but never as part of a threat. I tend to wait till he is home and things are calm. The children may or may not be part of the discussion. DH may talk to the kids hours later but it's only to help them reflect on things and not for discipline. I can discipline my children by myself, I don't expect anyone else to feel forced to step in.

That's hysterical - I bet he has no idea what an eejit he has made of himself, no wonder his DD can run rings round him.

In English please? Got a headache from trying to understand it.

Oh dear spongebob, did you not realise that most of the OP was C&P'd from someone's FB?

The OP is pretty good at the typing thing. Shame you couldn't be arsed with the reading thing before wading in!

Why thank you Crystal, that was very kind of you :) To the Pp who thought I should I shouldn't wade in etc, I did realise it was a c&p, however it still made my eyes bleed!