To wish I could live where I grew up

[Beemer30]

Been in my home village today where my parents live and where DPs parents live. Myself and DP grew up there. Took DD to the park which overlooks where I went to school. It's a naice area with v good schools and a nice community. I saw lots of people from the past and felt very nostalgic. I had to move away 6 years ago to be able to afford to live independently as house prices in my home village are v v high even with a decent household income. Whilst where I live is nice enough I have never felt settled or felt that I belonged here which I think has contributed to me suffering twice now with PND. I've tried so hard to make friends, blend it but it just hasn't happened.

I feel the same. My parents live in a very rural area qnd there are just no jobs so had to move 8 years ago now. Like you I live in a nice enough area now but it's not home and I doubt it ever will be. If I could I'd move back in an instant.

I'm with you, but I live overseas!
I'm currently visiting the UK and am in the village I grew up. My kids love it here, can just take themselves off on their bikes etc. We live in a big Asian city (recently made it into the top ten most dangerous places to live!) and they just can't do that.

I'd move back in a heartbeat. No jobs here for dh (or me for that matter!)

We have two weeks left til we go back, and the thought of going back is spoiling my time here tbh.

I sound really depressed, sorry

YANBU. I'd love to live where I grew up. Lived abroad for 17 years which I hated. Living in a glorious area now, so feel v lucky, but it's not home.

Same here

Same here. My folks bought their house for £13,000 back in the 80s. It's now worth £500,000. No way I could begin to afford the village I grew up in, or anywhere near it.

Yeah, I've sometimes thought wistfully about moving back to where I grew up, but property prices make that impossible. For a modest house like mine which is affordable in yorkshire where I am, I would be looking at easily double the amount (Oxfordshire).

Not unhappy with where I am however, v beautiful area. Just feels odd to think that living where I grew up is not actually possible.

I live in my 'home' area. We have a nice house, our dc are happy here, we are near family, my dh is happy here.

I feel like I have missed out on life. I've never had a career, which was the only thing I wanted in life. There are hardly any jobs. My DH, luckily, does happen to have a good job, so we're not struggling for money.

But it's a horrible empty feeling, and every time I hear of someone moving away to start their life somewhere else, I am burning inside with envy. I want to have a life too, and it can't happen here, and unless I'm willing to walk out on my children and my husband, I can't make it happen. I feel like my home is somewhere else.

It's sad but your parents chose to bring you up in an expensive place where it would be fairly obvious a young person couldn't live on their own. Maybe your parents can move to your area?

But where I grew up wasn't expensive when they boughT their house. It didn't become expensive until people from London started moving their. It's not the fault of my parents. Generations of my family have lived in the same area.

Me too, but not enough jobs down there.

3 of my school friends have moved back (or are just in the process of doing so) in the last couple of years.

YANBU I think it's quite sad.

YANBU.

I grew up in Whitstable. Parents bought house for £1,800. (!)
Now worth, I don't know, but a lot more than that.
Then lived in London.

Moved to Scotland.

Didn't appreciate would never be able to move back.

When I go back, I hear people 'talking like me' and it makes me homesick as I realise how little I hear that ordinarily.

Me too. I grew up in Buckinghamshire but moved to Somerset when I got married because I couldn't afford to live there.

I would not want to live in the area I grew up in. Maybe for DD's sake. But, it's too... Traditional... for my liking.

I am lucky, I still live within 2 1/2 miles if my birthplace and 1 1/2 miles of my childhood home in a beautiful part of the world.

The vast majority of my new friends I have made in the local NCT toddler group and other groups since I have become a SAHD are incomers to the area.
whereas you find it difficult to fit in and make friends we are a friendly lot who make people feel welcome ( I suppose this is an area thing with the friendliness of the natives)

I grew up on the outskirts of London and while it wasn't the nicest of areas, it is my home town and I love it dearly. If we sold our large 3 bed semi here, we wouldn't be able to afford a 1 bed flat where my mum still lives. It's heartbreaking to me, the older members of my family are there without any of us younger ones around for support as we can't afford to live there. The guilt I feel is unreal.

I feel very lucky. I live in a tiny rural hamlet and actually live in my childhood home after my parents gave it to me a couple of years ago and they moved out into a smaller cottage.
Apart from the 'old' families who have lived round here for generations, most houses are owned by business people, legal people, financiers etc. so blooming expensive.