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On phone so sorry for typos. Dh and I and 2 Dcs are I holidays in Spain with his parents. Dc2 is 5 months old and I am bfeeding except at night when he takes a bottle .I decided that over the course of the hols, I would give a couple of bottles at night so I could have a couple of glasses of wine. My AIBU question is - why am I still the one in bed with dc2 at 9pm when dh is downstairs with his parents. I go to bed early with the baby all the time and when I said it to dh tonight, all he said was - I'll go to bed tomorrow night with him, which is not going to happen. I may as well be at home to be honest, at least there I could take sth nice to eat up to bed with me- feel like a pig if I do that here..am annoyed that I haven't had one night out since ds was born and it is always assumed that I will be the one to put him down- and stay with him. So AIBU?

Have you pointed out to him that you have had no nights out since he was born?

Can you not go back down when he is asleep?

Yanbu, tomorrow just get ready and leave.
Tbh His parents should have offered to at least for one night to take care of your DS. I know my il would either do a holiday that's for everyone of at least try to give DH and I evenings together.

when I am with my parents it is always DH who puts the kids to bed and stays til they're asleep if necessary.
I feel that it's because they're MY parents but really we never ever do anything fun with his parents so I'm just realising how unfair it is really.

You should say something to your dh directly both about the lack of nights out, his not pulling his weight re bottles/night feeds and also his parents lack of help. Yanbu to expect not to be the sole carer on holiday. I wouldn't let it fester and ruin you entire holiday, tackle him.

Why should you feel a pig for taking something nice to bed with you if everyone else is till up and presumably having a snack if they want one?
Yes, your DH should do at least alternate nights an HIBU not too. However, as a PP said, why not go downstairs once your DC is asleep?

I could go downstairs but ds is very clingy and if he wakes up and I am not there, there could be issues. Also, I am so pissed off now that I am not in the mood. I just hate the way that he presumes it will be me- looking over at me saying, poor baby is so tired. I don't even mind that much not going out for the night as dh's parents are really good with dd and play with her all day long. It is more the fact that I would like some adult company- I feel that I spend every night in bed early on my own and netflix really does not help with the loneliness. Anyway, thanks for reading my self indulgent posts! Feel silly now posting so hopefully this thread will move down quickly!