To not go out tonight because I'm too fat and have nothing to wear?

[Sleepswithbutterflies]

Two failed ivf cycles and I've put on 5lbs. So I'm not pregnant but oh lucky me, I look fucking pregnant. Thanks a bunch progesterone.

Meant to be going out tonight and nothing fits, and if it does fit I look like a pig in a frock.

It's for a friend's birthday but I just want to stop on and have liposuction or something.

I'm so immeasurably fed up. Stupid ugly fat body.

Oh sleeps I'm sorry you're feeling so awful. Hormones and disappointment are very likely explanations. Go out if the advice from others seems good and arrange a pleasant day tomorrow with your DH.

Otherwise stay in with your DH, talk things through and decide what help you might, or might not need.

I'm sure it is a hormonal thing, perhaps chat to your DH and make a decision about going out. If you are at all inclined, I would, but if you feel truly wretched, then perhaps a night in with him and an honest chat with your friends (or as much as you want to tell them, just say you have a stomach upset/ate something bad) might be the better option.

I naturally hold a lot of weight on my stomach so constantly look about 7 months gone.

I hate getting ready to go out because there's a limited amount of clothes that I look ok in. I always get worked up, upset and teary when getting ready. I have though learnt to suck it up, put something I'm happy in on and do my hair and make up well. I put my killer heels on so I feel sexy.

I always have a great time and don't give a shite about my belly when I'm out and I'm sure no one else give a fuck either.

Sorry you're going through a shit time but a night out will do you good. Don't worry about how you think you look, you'll look fab.

Enjoy your night.

It's not really about the weight is it? You throw in the fact you are feeling suicidal as if it's an afterthought but it's actually very important. Before I read that I thought "go on, go out and enjoy yourself, it might cheer you up" but now I realise it is more serious. Stay in if you don't feel well enough to go out and please talk to someone in real life about how you are feeling, try your DH and then your doctor. It could be due to the disappointment or the hormone fluctuations but either way you need medical advice, don't ignore your symptoms. If you're in England you can also call Samaritans for support on: 08457 90 90 90

Yeah it doesn't sound like a case of just pull yourself together to me, sounds like hormones making you feel dreadful and your mum is being ridiculous for agreeing with you - 5 lbs is a tiny amount to have gained given what you've been through. I fluctuated a lot while ttc and comfort eating through failures. I think you ought to cancel, you probably won't have a good time if you're low and true friends understand. And can your DH not get back on his own?

You're mum is being awful when you just don't deserve it with all you are going through

You will feel better for going out. I've been where you are.

Go shopping, but something you live in a bigger size, get dolled up and have a fabulous time.

Tomorrow, make a losing weight/getting more exercise plan.

Go for Sunday walk with DH.

Find one friend you can trust to tell .