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Re Children left alone in a car in supermarket car park?

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aleC4 · 15/08/2014 20:07

Tonight I went to a local supermarket with dd (7). The supermarket is on two levels with the shopping area being on the first floor and the ground floor just the entrance, a couple of kiosks and trolley storage etc. The car park is also on the ground floor.

As dd and I entered the store to get on the escalator, I saw a young girl of around dd's age struggling to carry a little girl of 2 or 3. I looked around to see who she was with but couldn't see anyone. Dd commented that the children were young to be on their own. The younger girl had no shoes on and was crying, the girl was carrying her but she was obviously too heavy for her. Whilst we were going up the escalator the older gilr turned around to talk to me. She said "My sister fell asleep in the car and my mum didn't want to wake her up. She told me to watch her. I've been playing on my tablet in the car but now Sophie's woken up. She's crying because she wants my mum. I can't find her shoes so I'm taking her to find my mum".

I was really shocked that they had been left alone. It was quite dark outside as it was pouring with rain. I felt as though I should do something but I didn't really know what to do. The girl then spoke again. She said "I guess I'm going to have to walk up and down all the rows to find her." With this comment I really felt as though she was asking me for help. In this day and age though I really didn't want to take her by the hand or anything but I felt really sorry for her. When we got to the top of the escalator there was a security guard at his station. I said to the girl that the man worked there and maybe he would help her find her mum. I went over to him and said could he helpthese two children as they were lost. I explained what she had told me and he thanked me and led them over to the Customer Service desk.

At this point we had to go as my dd needed the toilet and by the time we got back they had all gone. I couldn't stop thinking about them all the way round the store, hoping that the mum wasn't cross with the girls for getting out of the car.

Am I being unreasonable in thinking it was a crazy thing to do? Anything could have happened to those children. Nipping in to pay for petrol where you can see the car is one thing, but shopping inside a shop on a different floor our oview of the car park?

I don't really know why I am sharing this but I couldn't stop thinking about them for ages and what could have happened - in the car or after they left the car. Even my dd was worried and she is only a child.

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Alisvolatpropiis · 15/08/2014 20:31

Yanbu

But people do this kind of thing all the time.

I lost count of the number of very young children who ended up as the customer service desk of the supermarket I worked at. Often they had run away and their parents were frantically looking for them. But on a number of occasions the parents were annoyed that the child had managed to get out of the car! Shock

There is nothing less enjoyable than trying to get information out of a child barely of speaking age which can then be relayed over the tannoy (can't describe child, anybody could try to walk off with it). Well nothing except handing said child back to parents who were furious their toddler had got out of the car.

My least favourite moment re lost children was running across the car park after a toddler wearing reins. He was headed straight for the main road. I thought he was going to be hit by a car. The mum was aware he'd run off but as she'd been next in line at the checkout she merrily proceeded with that. "Oh I knew he'd be alright" she blithely said.

aleC4 · 15/08/2014 20:51

It made my blood run cold at what could have happened. The older girl appeared very blase at first but I am a teacher and I would like to think I can read children pretty well. She was worried.
The reaction you mentioned was one of my worries, that the mum would turn up and have a go at me for interfering! Or that she would be really cross with them for getting out the car.

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Mumof3xox · 15/08/2014 20:53

I would have done the same as you op

Alisvolatpropiis · 15/08/2014 20:54

I now exactly what you mean.

That incident with the little boy with reins has stayed with my for years, I was about 18 at the time and 25 now. Mother was rather well do to in appearance and manner. It wasn't that the little boy had run away that bothered me, it happens, it was the fact she didn't give a shit.

SirChenjin · 15/08/2014 20:55

YANBU at all.

PickleSarnie · 15/08/2014 21:07

I'd never seen it before but just yesterday there was a car alarm going off and it turns out there were two children scrambling around inside the car with no parents to be seen. Utterly bonkers.

Pinkrose1 · 15/08/2014 21:15

I leave the toddler in the car seat when I take the older boy into school (about 50 yards) but he is in a wheelchair and I physically cannot manage the two. I feel awful about it but he is locked in and safe and luckily doesn't get upset, but the situation OP describes is appalling. No, not U at all Sad

babyandsparkle · 15/08/2014 21:41

YANBU.

I wouldn't of had a problem with the mother coming to have a go at me either. I would of happily given her a piece of my mind back!

babyandsparkle · 15/08/2014 21:42

There really isn't any excuse now a days- I get the budget supermarket don't do online delivery- but if you can't manage the supermarket with your kids- spend a few more blooming quid and do it online!

DaisyFlowerChain · 15/08/2014 21:52

Poor children, shopping is not more important than looking after your children. Do it online if you can't both shop and look after children at the same time.

aleC4 · 15/08/2014 21:56

I'm so glad you all agree. It did cross my mind that maybe I was being a bit hysterical about it but it seems not. I know I can be a bit protective of my two but it would never cross my mind to do this. Either wake up the sleeping child and stick them in the trolley, wait in the car playing I Spy with the older one until younger one wakes or go home and try again later!

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MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 15/08/2014 22:02

So the children could easily let themselves out of the car, unseen, and wander off god knows where? Jesus op, YANBU! Presumably that also means anybody could have taken them out of the car? What the hell were the parents thinking?

babyandsparkle · 15/08/2014 22:06

You would at least lock the car wouldn't you?! Either that or she left the keys in the ignition..

If she did that I hope her car got stolen when the kids wondered off

Sad to say thats the way someone would learn- but if that's the way thats the way..

aleC4 · 15/08/2014 22:12

Do you know I thought exactly that about the keys. Was the car locked? If so, how did they unlock it? Did they have the keys? I'm pretty sure neither child was holding any keys. The younger one was holding a teddy comforter thing and the older one was struggling to hold onto the younger one. If she left the car unlocked then yes, you are right, anyone could have taken them or they could have wandered anywhere. I'm sure a child even of the age of the older one would not have the forethought to take the car keys with her if she left the car.

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