AIBU to not go?

[ApplebyMennym]

Been invited to a friend's children's joint birthday party this weekend.

I'm 10 weeks pregnant and feeling utterly naff. They're more my DH's friends than mine and I always feel a bit out of place when I go along to their social things anyway.

The dad is my DH's best mate though, and they rarely get the chance to get together. He has told him that I'm pregnant though keeping it quiet so if I come along we'll probably not stay for long, and if I don't he will go along with our DS.

Now the mum has put a status up saying there's a horrible sickness bug going round her town, two of her friends have it. I'm emetophobic, I seriously flip my shit if there's vomiting to be dealt with. I'm having pretty much constant nausea in this pregnancy anyway. I am happy for dh to go, he has a fairly iron constitution and never succumbs to sick bugs. But I don't want DS to go and I definitely don't want to go myself!

I feel awful, something always seems to come up when we are supposed to see them. But I just can't get past this.

Am I really shitty?

I think in your circumstances I would let your DH take your son.

I think it's fine if you don't go, but can't see why your DH and son can't go.
He's your dh's best mate.

LadyLuck I'm nervous of DS going and picking something up, then me having to deal with it whilst dh is at work and I'm on my knees with exhaustion and nausea. Fair enough the risk is very small, I doubt anyone who has a sickness bug would show up to a small child's birthday party!

I fully accept I am irrational on this BTW, it's not a "normal" response.

I think you should let DS go, he could even pick up a bug by going to the shop with you.
Take the time to have a rest for a bit

The chances are your ds will be fine, enjoy the break whilst your dh takes him

Tbh I'd be inclined to say I had the bug - explains the sickness - and use it as a great get out

I'd definitely stay home and let dh and DS go. This means that you get to chill out for a couple of hours and they can have fun at the party.

LadyLuck is right that your DS could pick up a bug anywhere. Enjoy the time alone!

I'd second what Sparklypants says.

Just let the bairn go with your bloke. Wash his hands when he gets home (as you would do anyway) it's a bit crap being around somebody who's feeling rough and even worse for a youngling and it gives you a chance to chill for a few hours.

Thanks everyone, I've made the decision to send husband with the little one, and as gamerchick said, wash his hands thoroughly. They're both looking forward to it, hope it stays dry!