He and I having problems particularly the last year, he had an emotional online affair that I found out about. I went crazy after it and he promised the sun moon and stars. After many months of rebuilding trust and trying to understand why he did this our relationship was back on track. However, he promised a number of things like making efforts to arrange dates, family days and just generally appreciate his relationship and family more. He also kept referring to a "grand gesture" I told him I couldn't be bought so I don't know where this grand gesture came from.
Anyway we're a year from all of these promise and he's done nothing. We've gone out once. We spoke about at home dates and planned one, he fell asleep after his dinner so that was that.
I got a call last week to go to hospital for something fairly major I've been waiting on this appointment for months. We couldn't really speak about it that day as kids were there, that evening he fell asleep without asking if I was ok or wanted to talk. I was crying in bed and cuddled into him for comfort and we ended up sleeping together after which he fell straight back to sleep.
I was furious the following day and he kept shouting at me that he was too tired and couldn't stay awake. This went on and on until I reminded him that he wasn't too tired to sleep with me. We've been arguing since then. I'm in hospital and I've not seem him. We're just texting.
He wants me to forget all he's done and he will "try" not to be such a wanker.
I'm finding this very hard to swallow. I'm so angry at him for causing this pain and taking no responsibility.
For 7 years before this he was a good man. He looked after me and the children really well and was thoughtful and kind. Can he go back to that? Should I make him follow through on promises? Or should I forget it all and just forget my hurt and "leg him away with it"