Don't want to go out tonight!

[twiglet59]

I have been invited out with about six other women at work. I have worked with there for a year but only 10 hours a week so don't know them that well. The colleague that invited me has left and its a meet up after. I think she invited me to be polite. Probably being oversensitive, but I think they would rather I didn't go because when I asked one of them if they were going she didn't say are you. I just think it will be awkward.

Don't go? Is it something you absolutely have to go to or can you cite a reason/excuse/get out clause for not going? I wouldn't go unless I got on well with my colleagues, and even then, we always used to talk about work.

If you don't want to go dont go. If you do go its a good way of finding out about your colleagues. You might really hit it off with them. Could you go for one drink and make an excuse.

I would make the effort to go as it would be a good opportunity to get to know your colleagues.

Swap lives? I have to go to a black tie party 200 miles away tonight. Am dreading it. 2yo ds will be tired and dislikes large groups and it's my family hosting who think criticising your weight and appearance is just social chitchat. My grandma's hideously racist and loud and my cousin will get screaming drunk and fall down.

Is the person who invited you actually going or not?

Don't go, send a message to the organiser saying Sorry you can't make it, hope they have a great night.

Do something you want to do instead.

Yes she is going. I gave one of the other one's my number and she said she would text me to let me know what time they are meeting. I know I should go it's the lazy part of me just wants to stay at home. I think I will see if I get the text I will go if not then I won't. Can you not make excuses for yours Showy. Sounds awful!

Nope, family celebration of Event. I have to go. Lord only knows why black tie is on the agenda. Thirty years of prawn rings, vol au vents, the function room over the legion, balloons and Dave's Mobile Disco and now they've got Ideas. The band probably don't even know The Time Warp.

Are you going with a dh?

What are you going to be doing? If it is a meal can't you just go and make your excuses once it is over. Or if it is a drink just pop along for an hour?

Just go! You never know how much fun these things can end up being. You might make some new friends and opportunities. Go home early if you're not that into it once you have tried.