To be annoyed sil announced engagement over fb b4 telling us?

[Emj86]

Hello,

I probably am overreacting but maybe I'm just old fashioned in thinking some things should be shared personally before fb!

Basically my sil lives a ten minute drive away, im not majority close to my in laws but OH is, they were only at our house a day ago for dh's birthday.

I got a text this morning from a close friend asking if i knew sil was engaged because it was all over facebook, anyway i went on her profile and there it was, the announcement at 5pm yesterday tea time!

OH said he hasn't had a text or anything and had no idea, looking at the comments under the announcement it was clear other people did know b4 it was posted.

Maybe i am being daft but i think this is really rude, i understand she will have been excited but it's not much to send your brother a text first surely?

I made sure i told all of our close friends and family about our engagement and pregnancy long before posting on a social network.

Anyway what do you think?

So instead of being happy, you choose to go down the offended route instead....

Might be an indication there why you weren't considered a priority to tell

Months of offence to look forward too, the date, the present, the day itself....

Yup I'm being harsh but you're disagreeing worth everyone saying yabu..

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I announce everything via facebook. My inlaws were annoyed they found out DD2 was born through our facebook update, but my family and friends are spread across the globe and its the easiest way to let everyone know new news at the same time. It seems logical to me, I cant see the big deal

Gemmawella81 sorry but i have not disagreed with anyones opinions, i wouldn't post on here if i didn't want to hear both sides.

To the pp that commented that me being offended maybe an indicator of why we wasn't told, it's not.

As i said i would never say any of this to them, i have given my congratulations and me being offended by something mainly because it hurt my dh is in no way an indication of my personality.

We all have our day's when something annoy's us that others may think is daft, part of being human i guess, oh and im 19 weeks pregnant so probably am taking things too personally.

Babydubseverywhere, yea makes sense especially when you all live apart.

I'm sorry if this offends anybody but, engagements seem very different now. They used to be serious and formal occasions, actual intentions to marry but now there are lots of very informal and often fleeting 'arrangements' that don't always come to much. The advent of FB has diluted the formality also.

It's up to a couple how they announce but when they trounce other family members' feelings they should remember that they did that when family are blasé about events that the couple try to drum up enthusiasm for. As my granddad always said, "You don't get the penny AND the bun".

Agree with Kentishgirl's last post absolutely.

YABU. Neither of us told our sisters directly when we got engaged 2.5 years ago. Parents yes, but our sisters are on the same level of friends to us, so they ALL found out the same way.

I think it is sad that your SIL got engaged and your first thought was about how made you feel. Her engagement is not about you. Be pleased for her.

YABU and acting rather selfishly.

DW's nieces and nephew (all in teens) found out her dad was getting engaged via facebook. His new woman posted ring photo before he had spoken to them.

She was also all sweentness and light to the teenagers at the start of the RL but now when they visit must sit in another room to her to eat and loads of other random crap, e.g "why do i need to socialise with those bloody kids in my own house"

When people make important announcements or send out invitations via social media I hope they aren't going to be offended when people don't respond. You can't assume that everyone has Facebook or even reads it every day.