to think my bil was being rude

[browneyedgirl1]

Ok I will be honest. I am not over keen on bil. I am always polite and friendly but I can't help thinking he has been less than supportive of my sister in recent times. Well since they had their third unplanned child. I stay with them occasionally to babysit. Whilst there on one occasion I heard him tell baby who was about 7 months at the time. He also makes the point of saying that he didn't want their 3rd son.
To me all this is bad but at least it is private.
Well today sis did one of these how many children will you have quizzes on facebook. Just a bit of harmless fun. The result was four or more. She replied that this would be biologically impossible. She is post menopausal.
Bil replied good I didn't even want tbe third.
Aibu to think this was rude.

It was rude

Facebook is not life though

That was tell baby to stfu.

Not sure that rude is the word I'd choose to describe it.

Not rude so much as horrible. It may well be true but it's an awful thing to say in a public or private forum. Poor child.

He's horrible, poor child it's not his fault. What does your dsis say when he makes these comments.

he's beyond rude, he's a nasty bastard.

how's that poor baby going to feel growing up KNOWING his dad resents his existence?

Poor kid, even if his father never says anything, he'll make it clear to the child in more subtle ways.

Oh my God vile man!

Id take a screenshot of that. Might be useful down the line.

He sounds like a knob but it's unclear from your post whether their third child was unplanned or they had three unplanned children?.

If it's the latter and they were using contraceptives that failed then I could understand feeling unlucky and pissed off about that!. Absolutely and utterly out of order to tell the children that though or ever make them feel they were not wanted. That's just awful.

Yuck.

Tbh telling baby to stfu was shocking but was probably a heat of the moment one off.
Sis does joke about ds being a surprise but in a good way. I think it obviously upsets her hearing these things and is very embarrassed by it. I am sure the public nature of the facebook post will hurt.
Just the third was unplanned. He was a change of life surprise baby.

Think it's just plain mean tbh. It if it was genuinely unplanned then it's just a bit shitty to moan about it so vocally afterwards (even if you're thinking it) - it's not going to change anything so why prove a point of your 'against-ness' to a living , breathing person who has no control about it or can't help it.

I just feel so sad for my nephew. All my siblings see him as the light at the end of a very dark tunnel. (Many bereavements including my mum and a sister). Yet my bil clearly would prefer it if he had never been born.