To feel like I'm wasting their time a bit

[headdesk]

I got attacked last night. At the time I felt like it was worse than it probably is. The police are coming round to take a statement and now I feel like Im wasting their time a bit :/

Sorry to hear of your ordeal

I hope you are feeling a bit better

Please don't feel you are wasting police time as you're absolutely not xx

I hope you have some support in RL and something nice for yourself.

Take care x

Stick with it, Head! My daughter was attacked in a nightclub a couple of years ago. The police took it very seriously indeed. She started to have doubts, thinking she might be wasting their time, but she had been pushed to the ground, had various bruises, including a hefty bump to her head as she hit the floor. The bouncers were all over him immediately, thankfully, and held him until the police arrived.

I convinced her she was doing the right thing, she was getting a bit wobbly about it all. He may go on to do something worse to someone else. The guy was apparently well known in the area, and was subsequently banned from all the local nightclubs.

Really hope you're okay - don't buckle, you are absolutely NOT wasting police time.

That's awful

Definitely don't feel like you are wasting police time! You could prevent many others from getting hurt from this statement tonight!

Take care x

I'll explain what happened.
I was sat waiting for my bus to work and a guy (never met or even seen before) came up to me and asked me why I was sat on the floor so I said I was waiting for my bus. He then asked me if my tattoos were real (I'm heavily tattooed) I said yes. He then went absolutely crazy. Calling me a slut and a whore and that I was scum and if I was a guy he'd have punched me in the face by now. He then crouched down and was like 'I should spit in your fucking face' then spat at me, it was disgusting.

I felt really closed in because I was sat against a wall and he just lunged at me so I moved backwards really quickly to get out of the way and smashed my head against the wall behind me. It was hard enough to blur my vision and make me feel dizzy and sick. He was still screaming at me while I was kind of curled up on the floor from hitting my head. He went for me again and I got up just so I didn't feel closed in. A few people walked round the corner so he walked off, still screaming at me, calling me names. I had to sit back down because I felt so sick and dizzy. So I was basically curled up on the floor crying and people were just walking past me looking at me, no one helped or asked if I was ok :(

It doesn't sound that bad but at the time it was absolutely terrifying. I went to work because the alternative was walking back to my empty house in the same direction that the guy had walked off in.

That is unbelievably awful and is a very serious and intimidating assault on a stranger.

Please go through with it, he deserves to get fined and get prosecuted.

He's scum and you're very brave

That sounds absolutely terrifying. Yes you should absolutely speak to the police.

"It doesn't sound that bad" It sounds horrifying. You poor thing. Talk to the Police and look after yourself.

:(

Oh my goodness you poor thing

He sounds mentally unhinged & hopefully by reporting him he'll get help & won't be able to be abusive to someone else

Please take care of yourself & don't underestimate your feelings
You've had a shock & a scare & you deserve better

That sounds absolutely awful, Head, you must have been so frightened. What a piece of scum!

Please don't back down. I can't believe nobody stopped to help you.

Where I work we get a lot of police come through so I spoke to one of the police that I see regularly who took all the details down. I was still really shaken up but now in the morning I just feel a bit silly because it's not like he beat me up.

But he could have. And he even said he would if you were a man.

You mustn't feel silly - he was threatening and bullying and you were frightened, and it could have escalated if those other people hadn't disturbed him when they appeared.

He sounds unhinged and it's seems likely that you weren't further injured by fluke of the people coming round the corner, you must report, the next person he flips out at might not be so lucky....

He did assault you though, he spat in your face.
He behaved in an intimidating way and threatened to do more.

I'm so sorry this happened to you, how utterly awful. Well done for reporting it, he needs to be prosecuted for this.

I didn't even do anything, I was just sat there, it was purely just because he didn't like people with tattoos.
The police are coming round tomorrow morning to talk to me. Its made me very jumpy today :( I keep hearing noises outside my house and it makes me jump. (doesn't help that I live a lone either).

This sounds very serious.

Spitting on someone is an assault - people have been prosecuted for this. (I hope you wiped it off on a tissue or sleeve or something you can give to the police for the DNA).

Making threats to someone is also a criminal offence.

You are a victim of an attack and not wasting anyone's time. He needs to be found and dealt with. It's unlikely this was a random one off thing for him - he has to be stopped before he really hurts someone.

I'm so sorry you went through this.

I had a similar incident on the bus home from school when I was about 14. Some guy didn't like the seat I was sitting in (minding my own business) and started screaming at me that I was a whore, my mother was a whore, my grandmother was a whore, I deserved to die, etc. He was with a woman who turned round and gave me a sort of "don't mind him" look. I bloody well did mind! I was very shaken up. It was bloody awful. I had to walk past him to get off the bus and I was terrified that he was going to attack me. I didn't report it and wish now that I had (instead my dad took a description and went out looking for him, but thankfully didn't find him).

Can you write down his description in the meantime, just so you don't forget any small details? It's likely he's known to the police if he's the kind of person who attacks innocent people on the street.

I gave the police a description last night. I'm lucky because we get a lot of police in at work so the police man who took all the details knew me so I felt a bit more comfortable talking about it with him.
Eurochick that sounds horrible :(
This isnt the first time I've had something like this happen this year, a guy tried to feel me up on the bus a few months ago as well. Do I just have something about me that attracts these weirdos?

When you said it wasn't that bad and you wondered if you might be kind of wasting police time I thought as long as you give a true account you're never wasting police time (and was imagining something pretty minor such as someone shoved you once or something)

When I was pregnant someone behind me in the queue at the shop took my bag out of my shopping basket. Someone else chased after them up the road. A very nice policeman later came round and spent quite a while taking a statement and kindly making sure I was OK.

What happened to you is clearly much worse. I'm glad you don't seem to be too traumatised by it, but be kind to yourself. That was something really nasty that happened to you there IMHO

He smashed your head off a wall too, that's very serious.

Oh god op, thats awful, you are in no way overreacting!

The tattoos thing is especially worrying :( its just passed the anniversary of sophie lancasters attack. If you are at all 'alternative', it can (i think) be classed as a hate crime.

Im heavily tattooed, but I've never had anything more than a few snidey comments about them before which I ignore because Im not bothered about strangers opinions. But this has really scared me because how do I know that I'm not going to get attacked again because of them :(

this is a serious assault - you will not be wasting police time. It is likely that the perpetrator is mentally ill and requires help to ensure he does not hurt anyone else which he will get if apprehended by the police. Well done for reporting.