To think this is cheeky? (Long, sorry)

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Not really sure how it could have been handled better though.

We have an elderly neighbour who we've never really spoken to as she does not often come out of her house.

We speak to her daughter quite a lot. The daughter seems 40-50 ish and has learning difficulties and I'm guessing some health issues regarding her biliary system/ liver as is always jaundiced.

She struggles with social boundaries and will come round at special family events.

They recently acquired a little dog. A mongrel who has a habit of running off and causing havoc. It is not secured and rarely walked so this is not surprising.

Two days ago the daughter came round and was dropping lots of hints about the dog needing to go to the vets the next day. My Dad was due to be at home, but he is a builder and had all of the scaffolding up to do pointing on our barn therefore did not volunteer.

Yesterday the daughter turned up with the dog and a note from her mother saying the dog needed to be at the vet (an hour away) that afternoon and she'd be grateful if he'd take it and bring it back once neutered.

He was taken aback, but did take the daughter and the dog. When they got there firstly it was only a pre-op appointment and secondly they wouldn't do it as the mother needed to be there with proof she was on housing benefit.

They therefore want him to take them again.

I thought, although we are happy to help within reason, that this is really cheeky behaviour from the mother.

Today I have made some enquires for her and got her registered with The Dog's Trust and she can now have the dog neutered at our local vets.

AIBU to think the initial request was cheeky and my Dad should not have dropped his plans for the day to do a 2.5 hour round trip? Or am I a bad neighbour.

My Grandad will be taking the dog to his appointments at local vets now.

Yes it was cheeky and I'm afraid I wouldn't be giving them any encouragement.
They shouldn't even have a dog as they are obviously not able to look after it.

I don't think it is automatically cheeky or wrong to ask neighbours for help if you really need it, as long as you accept that they have the right to say no, but it was certainly bloody cheeky the way they went about it - which was basically assume and even bordering on demand! But your family chose to say yes so can't really complain about doing it. This makes you nice people and isn't a criticism of you. It's nice to be nice to people. But your other option was to say no if you didn't want to do it. Once people choose to say yes to a request then that's it. They've agreed. There can't be any moaning about how someone shouldn't have asked. If you don't want to do something, you say no. or hell no. or sod off. or are you bloody kidding me? on your bike pal but not yes ok grumble grumble moan grumble.

It's very nice of you all to agree to help out. Very neighbourly. But you might want to suggest that your family don't get into a situation where the other people start to expect and demand on a regular basis.

YANBU, there's no way I'd have taken the dog, your dog , your responsibility as far as I'm concerned. Think your dad is much kinder than I would have been.

She needed a favour, that's fine to ask - but you are not obligated to say yes.

You, your dad and g'dad have helped out now, which is really lovely of you, but be wary of your neighbour making assumptions that you will just do stuff for them every time; don't be afraid to say 'no' if you don't want to do something.

i want to be your neighbour your so nice! (by the way does your dad do plastering?)

Instinctively it sounds to me more like desperation than cheekiness, but YANBU to say no.