To be cross with DP

[randallsummer]

He is off work at the moment.

I work two jobs.

He usually does NOTHING around the house but yesterday did a big clear up - I said how nice it looked and he smiled patronisingly and said 'let's try to keep it this way shall we?'

LTB!!! My dh says that too bastard

I presume you smiled back and said 'it's the royal we, yes? As I'm a tad busy keeping a roof over my head.'

Cheeky shit.

Yes can keep it this way now seeing as you're not working and usually leave it all up to me.

What an arsehole

Gotta love mn for a bit if sexism. Yesterday a thread with a female op as a sahm, her dh out working 2 jobs, and according to many posters he should pitch in at home. Reverse it, with the man at home, and he should do dverything with no complaints.

No one on here has said he should do it all, actually - he usually does nothing, including not even washing up his own dirty cups or washing his own clothes or cleaning his own skidmarks

No, arethereanyleft - I don't think the OP thinks he should do it all - but she did say he usually did nothing. If he'd done the big clearup and didn't make the sarky comment, just said 'thanks' no doubt it would be different.

god randall - sounds worse than I imagined. How did he get so unhousetrained?

Sexism? The context is that he doesn't usually do anything to keep the house going, despite not currently working. Has a clear out one day and then makes a patronising remark about let's keep it that way. I don't care what the gender it's cheeky as fuck and needs to be pulled up on.

My dp was at home for a few months on gardening leave, with another job lined up to start. So he was the sahp to a teenager and one in juniors, not taxing. He cleaned, shopped, school runs, cooked. I still came home and did my bit, helped lay the table for dinner, helped tidy after dinner, kept an eye on my dirty laundry.

Yes, it's just bloody annoying!

He's a lovely person but honestly his housekeeping skills are non existent!

Skidmarks!!?? LTB!

A curt "I don't see why not... now you're actually helping out instead of leaving it all to me".

Or arsenic in his tea.

Gotta love mn for a bit if sexism. Yesterday a thread with a female op as a sahm, her dh out working 2 jobs, and according to many posters he should pitch in at home. Reverse it, with the man at home, and he should do dverything with no complaints.

Was just thinking the same. Men are expected to do it all but if a women is home she is just there to watch and entertain the children.

I do think the person not working should do all the household jobs but it seems many think being a women is an opt out of this.

I think you've replied on the wrong thread Daisy.