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Original poster

To think this is a bit cheeky?

40 replies

mumof5plusazoo · 13/08/2014 15:13

One of the mums I know through dc school has just sent me a tx. It says 'On Friday I have arranged with friend a and my mum to have a party at a soft play centre for my twins 1st birthday. If you would like to come with your dc then you can but I am not paying for them but I will give them a cupcake. Argos vouchers would be nice as a gift for the twins'.

I am thinking we are an after thought that she doesn't really want to go but has been pressured to ask by friend a.
One and a half days notice and they want Argos vouchers.

Aibu to think this is cheeky and that this invite can fuck off?

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MrsHathaway · 13/08/2014 15:15

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!

Reply: "It's not April, and you didn't fool me."

Davsmum · 13/08/2014 15:16

YANBU
She has no right to expect a gift - let alone suggest what she wants before you had even asked what she may like.

I would reply saying - Sorry, we are busy and cannot come. Hope you have a nice time.

Greyhound · 13/08/2014 15:17

Very cheeky. YANBU. Some people are so greedy. Love the generous offer of a cup cake!

Catsize · 13/08/2014 15:17

Oh. My. Word.
Impressed that the child knows how to use vouchers at one though.

EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 13/08/2014 15:17

Unbelievably rude! I would tell her where to shove her cupcakes!

(Mrs Hathaway's was nicer and cleverer)!!!! Grin

pudcat · 13/08/2014 15:17

I would be busy that day.

Original poster
mumof5plusazoo · 13/08/2014 15:17

Unfortunately I know it's not a joke friend a told me in passing weeks ago she was going to this party.

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Original poster
mumof5plusazoo · 13/08/2014 15:19

I'm so glad you all agree with me ( so far ) I did think you might Grin

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Sunbeam18 · 13/08/2014 15:19

Unbelievable!!! I'd reply 'Thanks for the generous invite but I'm afraid we can't make it'.

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mumof5plusazoo · 13/08/2014 15:24

Incase you were wondering we will not be going to this party. Smile

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EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 13/08/2014 15:25

Sounds as though all the other guests have been sent an invitation in the same vein, they have all declined (for the very same reasons), so she's frantically rummaging around who might be gullible enough to fall for it. If you host a party, you pay for the entertainment. Either way, if you do or if you don't, you still don't "expect" a gift.

Original poster
mumof5plusazoo · 13/08/2014 15:27

I completely agree Evans.

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expatinscotland · 13/08/2014 15:29

I wouldn't even bother responding to this text.

dorasee · 13/08/2014 15:30

Spot on Evans. I'd get to UN-know this joker if I were you.

whiteblossom · 13/08/2014 15:34

Cheeky bitch!

FruVikingessOla · 13/08/2014 15:38

I agree with expat, it's not even worthy of a reply.

alsmutko · 13/08/2014 15:38

A text invite? Not even an email with a pic of cakes & candles?
Bah!
Surely most soft play centres have a party package where x number of kiddies can come in for a set sum, and there's usually an area for the eating of jelly and cake? Even when my dd was 15 and we all went off to Margate for the weekend to stay at the YHA I didn't expect any other parents to pay. We're by no means rich, just saved up for a nice weekend birthday do.
I'd say ignore the text.

Hassled · 13/08/2014 15:40

I agree that ignoring completely is the way to go. Either you pay for the fun and get presents, or you don't pay for the fun and make it clear you don't expect presents.

SauvignonBlanche · 13/08/2014 15:41

Cheeky mare! Shock

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mumof5plusazoo · 13/08/2014 15:43

Thank you for agreeing with me

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gamerchick · 13/08/2014 15:45

I would ignore it completely cheeky git.

MrsPMT · 13/08/2014 15:46

Very cheeky!

Floggingmolly · 13/08/2014 15:47

The demand for vouchers would be cheeky as fuck by itself, but combined with "I'm not paying for them"... How thick do you have to be not to get that you just don't do things like this???

HappyAgainOneDay · 13/08/2014 15:50

Reply after the party date and say that you are sorry you missed the invitation in time but your phone has been switched off for personal reasons.

Glastogirl · 13/08/2014 15:50

What will you say back? Let us know her reply!