To ask my bf to lose weight before we have children?

[silverpig]

We are both over weight. I need to lose about 3 stone and really I think he could do with doing the same.
He is 10 years older than me and carries all his weight on his tummy.....he has the skinniest legs ever but a bulging tummy- probably from too much beer.
I just think once you have a child then losing weight will be more tricky. I would like to think that when we have a child we will be in the best possible health to take care of it and if I am honest the fact that he carries his weight all on his tummy/he is older than me makes me worry that he might have a heart attack. I lost my dad when I was young and I dont want my children to have to go through anything like that.

I thought we could do it together and support one another. I know he is very much wanting a child.

If I were you OP, I would be focussing on losing weight myself, and ask your DH to support you ( ie by having healthy food in the house, cooking healthily, and reducing portion size).

My DH lost half a stone as a result of me eating healthier. I was calorie counting and lost 2 stone, DH lost weight by changing nothing himself, just eating the same evening meal as me/

So, One week in.

Have you managed to make any progress?

Well done if you have! Seriously! I am overweight and know how hard it is.

If you haven't; See my previous comment